Women who quit dating and are single , what are your reasons?

[Chromeo]

I was talking to a guy for the last couple months and we got along great, only problem is he lives a few hours away. It wouldn't be hard for him to drive out and visit, but despite trying to plan something for literal months it's never come together. We've rescheduled half a dozen times, and both times that it's seemed like everything was ready to go, he cancels last minute and gives me some excuse. Even if his excuses are legitimate, I'm tired of being jerked around!! If someone's important enough to you, you'll make the effort to connect with them. His actions speak loud and clear; I'm not that important to him.

I've been at this point before in past relationships. No matter what I do, I'm just not important to my partners. I don't know if it's ME, or if it's just dumb luck, but regardless I'm done trying. I'm too old to keep getting my hopes up.

 

[Sangria]

I cannot connect with anyone for the life of me by virtue of my autism and other mental illnesses, and seeing how many people got fucked up by entering a relationship (think iDubbbz as a random example) it's really not worth the effort for me. I've always worked better solo, and I don't see that changing anytime soon unless I get poisoned again.

 

[Tiny Tom Cruise]

I've been at this point before in past relationships. No matter what I do, I'm just not important to my partners. I don't know if it's ME, or if it's just dumb luck, but regardless I'm done trying. I'm too old to keep getting my hopes up.

Same. I didn't even date or entertain guys non-platonically for several years. I had a close guy friend pursue me for two of those years and I finally went out with him. It almost immediately imploded in my face and I'm once again like "welp". I would have rather have kept the 'friend' as we were involved in several group activities together. I dunno what it is. Guys will chase and pursue forever but when they finally have it they don't seem to care about me anymore. I don't want to enter relationships with this way of looking at things either, because I *want* to be excited about my person but I don't want to deal with the disappointment of it anymore.

 

[A Cat in a Minefield]

I've been at this point before in past relationships. No matter what I do, I'm just not important to my partners. I don't know if it's ME, or if it's just dumb luck, but regardless I'm done trying. I'm too old to keep getting my hopes up.

I dunno what it is. Guys will chase and pursue forever but when they finally have it they don't seem to care about me anymore. I don't want to enter relationships with this way of looking at things either, because I *want* to be excited about my person but I don't want to deal with the disappointment of it anymore.

If they do that, you are obviously not at fault. They are just cunts.

Personally, and this goes for men and women, if we set a time and date to meet up, and you cancel right before you might get a second chance. If you cancel again, without a really, really good reason, I have no interest in spending time with you anymore. It's just a respect thing. I will do a lot in order to make a meeting. And if I think it might be difficult, I will let you know as early as possible. I expect the same from the others. Same with people that are late. If people don't show up in like 15 minutes of the agreed time and don't let me know where they are, I'm gone.

Being to late or not showing up is, in my opinion, one of the most rude things people can do.

Spoiler: Personal

I made the effort of rekindling a friendship I had with someone from school. I was really excited because I hadn't seen him in probably 5 years. When visiting my parents I go and visit him as well. It was nice and we had a good long talk and we really hit it off. He probably didn't expect it, because he had no food or nothing. Anyways, before leaving I tell him that I would like to invite him and his wife to my place for lunch or dinner. They were really happy and said yes. I live around 2.5h by train from them. It's not nothing, but an acceptable travel time if you spend like 4 or 5 hours at my place. Via chat we agree on a date. I, wanting to cook something new, cook it for myself, to make sure everything works, and it's tasty (it was).
I write him a couple of days before the agreed upon date, if the date was still working for them. Just a formality, especially because we had planned it one and a half months in advance. His response: Oh, yeah, sure, let's meet for a coffee near my place. I send him a friendly reminder that no, we had agreed to meet at my place. Thankfully he remembers, but at that date they unfortunately can't come. I offer to change the date, to which he replies that he could come for lunch during the week. Nigger I work?? Weekends sadly don't work for him, for whatever reason. He offers me that we could meet in the middle and go for a coffee, which I agreed to (I probably shouldn't have, but oh well). It was nice and all, but I have rarely experienced that level of disrespect. Needless to say, I will not meet him again.
If I agree to meet someone and I'd have 5h of travel time, I'd do it. Or at least see if there is an alternative way of linking up, weeks before the planned meeting.

 

[Justa Grata Honoria]

I find it hard to believe men stop using dating apps, but who knows. The question still stands for why? Sorry if this is to derailing, let me know with a disagree, and I'll find another place.

Not free anymore and waste of time . If you want quality matches as a man you have to pay

 

[Larry Poster]

Not free anymore and waste of time . If you want quality matches as a man you have to pay

Online dating in general is just garbage. Most people don't even fucking try with their profiles, or even worse, they just use it as an ego boost (my girl friend's friends did this right in front of me, legitimately that is some dystopian, fucked up shit) I also don't even understand how you can judge attraction off looks alone via a screen. So many women I see online use a retarded amount of filters, and it sucks - I get it, instagram and twitter fucked up people's perception of beauty - but it's inherently dishonest.

I think there's way too many factors that contribute to men and women giving up on dating to accurately ascertain it to one simple factor. Personally, people are more vapid and less interesting than ever, and I saw that when I was trying to date (a year and a half ago) and I can only imagine how much worse it has gotten. Not to mention the widening political gap between men and women, as well as the fact there are negative perceptions of either side, it is really sad to see us hate each other. Especially when it's a manufactured narrative driven by mass media.

In a world of mass and instant communication, we are all lonelier than we have ever been.

 

[Doktor Grimm]

I find it hard to believe men stop using dating apps, but who knows.

It was hard to believe until the apps became so terrible at fulfilling their supposed purpose that men, for maybe the first time ever, decided being single was better. They're designed by execs who think that picking faces out of a lineup is the most controlled and therefore best form of courtship -- as if we're a bunch of captive apes who need to be gradually acclimatised to one another through a series of tests.

What I've heard from my male friends in the dating game is that you'll find a match if and only if you have enough surface appeal to market yourself with a couple of selfies. Paying doesn't help. Creative writing exercises don't help (nobody reads the bios). Dating apps are competitive grovelling, & there is nothing less attractive to women than a man who grovels.

Outside of that demographic, the coupled men I know are either in a intimacyless e-relationship or a codependent nightmare with the same BPD chick they've been seeing since high school. People, consciously or not, are seeing this and deciding that it's not worth the struggle.

 

[NiggerKing22]

I find it hard to believe men stop using dating apps, but who knows.

As a dude with social problems but not exactly ugly or dysgenic, chatting at the rate of war correspondence and a general lack of literacy or subtlety (I live in brazil) makes it a real fucking turnoff and I feel like I become more and more of a shut-in biting my nails waiting for a girl to respond. I think I had more interaction with wahmen just going to normie parties and attending church with christian friends.

 

[Caramelo]

I never really dated because I always found the idea pretty retarded, even before the apps. And dating culture wasn't really part of my country but was one of the many retarded american imports we have now.

I'm simply too focused on my hobbies to even think on marriage and children. I'm already struggling with my job because it drains too much of my time and energy. Putting marriage and children in this equation would put me on suicidal levels of unhappiness.

 

[Perfect Witch]

Majority of male specimen are just insufferable, stupid, man-child minds and worst of all, they are really, I mean REALLY bad at sex and romance.

So yes, no dating for me. Sex toys are way much better and recently I've been thinking of hiring male escorts ngl

 

[ZsaZsaBinks]

The truth is, I’m not happy being single. But I’m so scared of dating because I don’t trust random men. I’m also scared of being a parent or a stepparent because I’m worried about being a child abuser. But I am white and so I never can catch a break when it comes to that sort of thing. I have to deal with white men wanting me to “save the white race” or minority men who want me to “dilute their genes”. It gets worse as I get older. Every else gets married and is making progress in life when I remain a womanchild.

 

[Idiosyncratic]

This is my first post, and I don’t want to PL too much or be a awkward newfag: I’m a Shit Life Syndrome recipient who got dangerously close to either malingering or BPDemon and basically made a fool of myself in multiple relationships over the years after being groomed as a teenager/DV hell. Unfortunately late diagnosed sperg but now finally undoing damaging leftist poison in my brain (started with me reaching peak trans and finding the farm, finally feeling better).

I’ve thankfully realised that peace is priceless. Have 1 cat, hope to add a dog next year. Between men and troons, I don’t have a lot of faith in partnerships.

 

[The Skeksis Emperor]

I'm just rarely attracted to people, and it's hard to pursue a relationship without that - I want a partner and not a roommate. First guy I was attracted to and chased for a good decade made it clear that he wasn't into me. The second guy strung me along for 8 months before revealing he was gay and in a relationship with a man (well fucking played dude, lol). I haven't felt anything for a guy since. I tried Duolicious and talked to some decent guys but it fizzled out because I felt nothing more than friendship for them. Sucks, but what can you do? I have resigned myself to dying alone, but I hope I'll run into someone I'll really like again.

I’m also scared of being a parent or a stepparent because I’m worried about being a child abuser

That's a pretty harsh thing to believe about yourself, why do you think that? I think the fact that you worry about it already makes it a lot less likely that you would ever be abusive.

 

[Daddy's Little Kitten]

If I become single, I'm never dating again. I'll die alone and I'll be found by the stench of my rotting corpse.

Men have become fags and I hate fags.

 

[ZsaZsaBinks]

That's a pretty harsh thing to believe about yourself, why do you think that? I think the fact that you worry about it already makes it a lot less likely that you would ever be abusive.

Because I don’t have any confidence around kids. I don’t know how to handle their problems. I don’t know how parents handle it. Changing your life for them would suck.

 

[rosecig]

That's a pretty harsh thing to believe about yourself, why do you think that? I think the fact that you worry about it already makes it a lot less likely that you would ever be abusive.

You don't have to be actively cruel to a child to be considered abusive especially in this day and age. Parents get the cops called on them for letting their 10-year-olds walk the neighborhood alone. Plus, in every stage of life for a child you have to anticipate their needs, keep on top of their schoolwork, take them to the doctor, pay for their expenses. Neglect is abuse and if you don't naturally have a caring instinct, you can easily end up not meeting the child's needs. Too many people ignore this and have kids anyway.

 

[Plus Size Polka]

Too many guys want a mommy, a bangmaid, someone submissive they can boss around, or some creepy combination of all three.

Forget it. Too much of a headache and I have better things to do.

 

[Mandy Stroyer]

But I am white and so I never can catch a break when it comes to that sort of thing. I have to deal with white men wanting me to “save the white race”

These guys are always the ones who should be sterilized too. Every racist white man I have dated has had poor hygiene, no legitimate hobbies or skills outside vidya and gun, can't cook or clean, and has the emotional intelligence of a brick. They're also all obsessed with anime and there's a 80/20 chance they like loli and are in some discord that's mostly porn. There's no race to save anymore, let those scrotes go extinct.

 

[A Cat in a Minefield]

These guys are always the ones who should be sterilized too. Every racist white man I have dated has had poor hygiene, no legitimate hobbies or skills outside vidya and gun, can't cook or clean, and has the emotional intelligence of a brick. They're also all obsessed with anime and there's a 80/20 chance they like loli and are in some discord that's mostly porn. There's no race to save anymore, let those scrotes go extinct.

How many white-power posters have we seen already that engage in cunny-posting and similar things. Those people make their racism their their whole identity. I'm probably also racist to a certain extent, but I don't make it my life, and I can talk to people that don't look like me without having to think about it. (Well I'll make an exception for stinkey Indians).
Thankfully those people are more often then not extremly autistic and repel normal men and women.
Also, the extreme racism thing also goes for women. If I date a woman and she starts talking how much she hates niggers, I'm fucking booking it.
Dating someone that lives only for their politics, be it right or left is bad news.

 

[Feline Supremacist]

Same. I didn't even date or entertain guys non-platonically for several years. I had a close guy friend pursue me for two of those years and I finally went out with him. It almost immediately imploded in my face and I'm once again like "welp". I would have rather have kept the 'friend' as we were involved in several group activities together. I dunno what it is. Guys will chase and pursue forever but when they finally have it they don't seem to care about me anymore. I don't want to enter relationships with this way of looking at things either, because I *want* to be excited about my person but I don't want to deal with the disappointment of it anymore.

I went through something similar recently but it's them, not you. I don't know if it was lingering mental harm and fog from the pandemic/house arrest combined with rioting, lawlessness and a shitty economy draining my bank account that made me lower my guard but the second he let it slip he was damaged goods I should have run. Because

Too many guys want a mommy, a bangmaid, someone submissive they can boss around, or some creepy combination of all three.

is so common its the default. I still date but I'm not going to be a dysgenic man's fuck buddy. I keep my distance because they always show their ass early on.

They're also all obsessed with anime and there's a 80/20 chance they like loli and are in some discord that's mostly porn. There's no race to save anymore, let those scrotes go extinct.

Pornsick men with fetishes so obvious they might as well be plastered on billboards all over town is the default now, not the exception.