Women who quit dating and are single , what are your reasons?

[Coffee Druid]

I think the short answer for me is that I have very high standards. They're not even entirely intentional. In physical terms, the men I find myself attracted to are VERY few and far between. Sometimes I wonder if that's just normal, or if my brain is just incredibly picky. I'm not even into model types or hunky conventionally attractive dudes. Just...average or kinda fit guys that take care of themselves and have a good face. Preferably with long hair. Sometimes I actually wish I was attracted to more people, just so I could at least enjoy some more eye candy once in awhile. But I digress.

Beyond looks an attractive personality is a must, obviously. I don't get out much and I find it pretty hard to find social outlets or "third spaces" to just hang out and find people (platonically or romantically). I can go to music shows or other events where there are higher chances of people with similar interests to be. But I suck at socializing or starting to talk to people. Dating apps are stupid in my opinion. I did get the occasional likes, but all of them make you pay to even know who. And none of them are my type. I've actually had some luck with "friend" versions and made a couple friends based on mutual interests.

Another point is that I don't even know if I'm anyone's type. Maybe it's because I don't go out as much as I want to, or I'm just a solid 5.5/10, or I look unapproachable, but I never get hit on or have people even try to talk to me. I also don't get insults either. So I have no idea what I appear like to other people. I just try to work on myself and take care of my own shit. I figure if I really do have high standards, I might as well uphold them with myself first if I expect them with others. I'd rather be on my own then ALSO have to take care of someone else who is lazy or whatnot.

 

[Roast Chicken]

I tried a couple of people but it's apparent I have a shit taste in men. I chased around trying to effectively mother a gearcase who I also shared a bed with.

Speaking of sleep, I basically can't sleep next to anyone - it's annoying to him because I get up several times to piss (overactive bladder) before going to sleep and he dies the annoying thing called snoring/breathing which I can't stand or fall asleep next to. I seem to have some intolerance for noise trying to get to sleep.

I am also afraid of being judged or expected to improve myself by a partner who may be better than me so I don't try because I know either he or I will likely separate or he'll become distant an apathetic which would be far worse. I don't really have any notable talents.

 

[Nique la mere de Macron]

The men where you live must be a hell of a lot better than the men where I live, because I, a person who doesn't have the best self-confidence, have NEVER ONCE worried that any of the crusty, dusty, hobosexual bums living in my town were better than me in any way, shape, or form. Indeed, my problem is the opposite!

 

[Xanax and Wine]

I'm at the old end of Gen Z so most single men are just not people I want to hang out with on the regular. The last two relationships I was in the guys had some serious issues involving porn addiction, being terminally online, were emotionally immature, had low opinions of women (one once dropped speaking points from Andrew Tate) and I could tell they weren't imagining an actual future with me or potential kids. They were just interested in a mom-fuckhole-housemaid hybrid to service them while they play video games all day. I don't want to imply all guys are like that but those experiences have soured my opinion of relationships a lot.

Also I take pride in my career and value my own personal freedom to do what I want so being in relationships always made me feel trapped and stressed to the point of delevoping actual burnout. Not blaming the dudes for that one that's just me being egoistical. I think it's just not meant to be. I find more joy in good friends than in romantic relationships.

 

[bourne-again]

I'm at the old end of Gen Z so most single men are just not people I want to hang out with on the regular. The last two relationships I was in the guys had some serious issues involving porn addiction, being terminally online, were emotionally immature, had low opinions of women (one once dropped speaking points from Andrew Tate) and I could tell they weren't imagining an actual future with me or potential kids. They were just interested in a mom-fuckhole-housemaid hybrid to service them while they play video games all day. I don't want to imply all guys are like that but those experiences have soured my opinion of relationships a lot.

Also I take pride in my career and value my own personal freedom to do what I want so being in relationships always made me feel trapped and stressed to the point of delevoping actual burnout. Not blaming the dudes for that one that's just me being egoistical. I think it's just not meant to be. I find more joy in good friends than in romantic relationships.

This is exactly how I feel. I don't want to write off relationships completely, it is fun to love and be loved. But the average man in my city is boring, uneducated, dealing with some addiction, etc. I don't want to tolerate another porn + video game addicted man that doesn't understand words larger than 3 syllables. I'm also at the old end of Gen Z and just gave up with men my age. I want a smart older man with his shit together and has hobbies outside of video games, gambling, and sports.

It is just not worth it anymore. I also recognize that I have peculiar tastes and I'm not attracted to most men my age. They have such soft features now; very out of shape?

 

[AbsurdumRideo]

Idk having been burnt ( figuratively and literally) by this man kinda keeps me from getting serious with other dudes. It’s complicated , but I’m not totally opposed to dating again. Just not what I need right now

 

[MaleLonelinessEpidemic]

You wouldn't ask this to a scrote, would you?