PeterJQuill/AutisticStarlord

[SPLASH]

Also I will explain this about my gender though. The reason I'm agender but use he/him pronouns is because I struggled with my identity for a long time. As you all noticed I was "born a girl", and I was confused because despite dysphoria I didn't... want to be a boy. I just didn't want to be a girl. I felt like I was in the wrong body and not meant to be female at all but I didn't feel a connection to maleness. So agender works the best for me and is what I feel the most comfortable with as it sets me apart from "femaleness" without me being male either - that being said, the rejection of femininity makes me feel 1000x more comfortable with he/him pronouns.

Also (editing this post since, at least on forums I've been on in the past, it's kinda shitty to make tons of replies in a row):

Her whiteknight princepup is also interesting. Not making a thread about her yet though, let's see if she grows out of it in a couple years.

Princepup is a close friend of mine and I'd really appreciate it if you didn't misgender him either. He's also nonbinary like I am and uses he/him pronouns like me!

 

[PoorlyAgingLettuce]

I am genderfluid myself and recently have learned why it is that I switch from one gender to another each day. I'm still learning about this and would like more literature as in books about dealing with this. I personally would prefer to be referred to by female pronouns simply because I am used to it and it makes it easier for someone to remember. If I am really having a time that I want to be referred by male pronouns I would say so but I wouldn't really beat someone over the head about it and guilt that person. No, I'm not expecting any kind of special treatment here and really don't care about getting special treatment. There's things that I wanted to say about Chris and his gender identity but did not because I felt that I would be dogpiled or something.

Genderfluid, from what I have read is a real thing and I have gone to a few transgender meetings and it's opened my eyes a lot and given me insight into myself.

I have a Tumblr but I absolutely loathe being a special snowflake as my mother has constantly told me that the world doesn't revolve around me and that's the problem that I see with people like this person, Vade and other Tumblrinas is that they have been raised, coddled and told that they were special.

This is /exactly/my current situation as well.

Also, on the subject of nounself pronouns or specialized pronouns, I interact with a LOT of people who have a special, preferred set of pronouns, but almost all of them give an alternative, more commonly used set, such as they/he/she/it, for those who are not comfortable with using specialized pronouns for whatever reason, or just can't get the hang of using them immediately. NEVER have I seen someone with specialized pronouns blow up at someone else for not using their specialized pronouns. I'm sure it happens occasionally, but it certainly does not happen as often as people on forms like these make it out to be. Take Bryyn for instance. I have never seen Vae get upset when people don't use Vae's specialized pronouns and use he/him instead. But Brynn has every right to be upset if Vae is being purposefully misgendered as a "she" by asswipes who cant be bothered to even google a few, very real, not made up, medical terms such as "dysphoria."

With people who have a specialized set of pronouns but also list more commonly used pronouns that they prefer as well, the specialized ones are generally more of a "please use them if we are friends, we are close, we talk a lot, and if you can spare the time, because it makes me happy and more comfortable with myself." People on this form make it sound like all people with specialized pronouns will immediately go for your throat if you dare not use them.

What is fucking appalling is that someone, in this case Brynn, lists a set of personalized pronouns AND a set of commonly used pronouns (he/him) saying that both are equally ok to use, but people on this form immediately reacted with "Well they have specialized pronouns which I personally take offense to, so therefore I am going to be malicious about it and purposefully misgender this person to make them feel like shit" Just... think about that logic for a second. And how shitty it is.

 

[GREEDY FIREMAN]

Aaaannnnd Tumblr has invaded.

 

[Colress]

the forum is still kind of in this anti-vade mindset because of how rude she was about her pronouns. she made her identity nothing but her gender and it was sickening.

 

[DirtbagDeluxe]

Aaaannnnd Tumblr has invaded.

A little bit late, too. That was a whole lot of words about a topic we already covered and corrected (re: Brynn's pronouns)

 

[PoorlyAgingLettuce]

the forum is still kind of in this anti-vade mindset because of how rude she was about her pronouns. she made her identity nothing but her gender and it was sickening.

Oh jesus, I was about to go off on you again because I thought you were still purposfully misgendering Brynn, even after you apologized for it, which really confused the fuck out of me. But I see now, you are probably referring this Vade person?

 

[Colress]

Oh jesus, I was about to go off on you again because I thought you were still purposfully misgendering Brynn, even after you apologized for it, which really confused the fuck out of me. But I see now, you are probably referring this Vade person?

yep. actually i've been PMing Brynn and he seems really chill. i like him so far.

vade is a massive piece of shit and you'll likely get to see why in a few days i'm pretty sure.

 

[PoorlyAgingLettuce]

Aaaannnnd Tumblr has invaded.

Awwrrrr, so so sorry to ruin all your fun.

 

[Locksnap]

For someone called Autistic Starlord you're not as spergy as I was expecting.

 

[Overchek]

Awwrrrr, so so sorry to ruin all your fun.

 

[Adamska]

And everything went better than expected. My apologies for the use of the wrong pronouns then; I just usually expect the person to not be so reasonable.

 

[PoorlyAgingLettuce]

Alright, I apologize if that was considered over the top around here. But, for a specific forum that was originally founded on making fun of someone, I honestly didn't think my simple response of "awrr, so sorry" was that over the line. Have it your way then. My friend is okay at least, so I'm out.

 

[DirtbagDeluxe]

Alright, I apologize if that was considered over the top around here. But, for a specific forum that was originally founded on making fun of someone, I honestly didn't think my simple response of "awrr, so sorry" was that over the line. Have it your way then. My friend is okay at least, so I'm out.

Well, I see you're still logged on, so advice: learn when to quit, friend

 

[Coldgrip]

Alright, I apologize if that was considered over the top around here. But, for a specific forum that was originally founded on making fun of someone, I honestly didn't think my simple response of "awrr, so sorry" was that over the line. Have it your way then. My friend is okay at least, so I'm out.

Not so much over the top, we just don't like to put up with tumblerina bullshit here.

 

[PoorlyAgingLettuce]

Not so much over the top, we just don't like to put up with tumblerina bullshit here.

Hey, I'm honest to god not trying to pick a fight here. In fact what I said was not meant to target you nor user dirtbagdeluxe I promise you. I honestly wouldn't call myself a tumblrina or social justice warrior or anything of the sort, I just don't understand forums like this. That being said, I'm going to find a way to delete my account because I don't need an account anymore and you obviously don't want me to be here.

 

[Ouija Board]

Splash, I admit that I made that post before reading the entire thread, I was on page 5 when I replied to that person. I did not intend to come across as harsh or aggressive as I am not personally that way so I apologize if I upset you. You seem respectable and nice so again I am sorry. Maybe I will PM you and we can discuss these things together.

 

[Meowthkip]

Is this for real? That her "OC" is literally a sparkle wolf version of Foxy?

I love FNAF. I love Foxy (although the home boy is the Puppet) but I agree the Tumblr fandom can be absolute shit. Don't get me wrong it can be awesome going into the lore of the game since it's so vague but then there are people like this. The people who think 'Oh Foxy you beautiful creature you're just misunderstood and hurt let me love you through my fanfics' and other generic bullshit.

I'm not sure if I want to touch on her art. If she's actually 15 I can kinda see her art being as shit as it is but at the same time I think that's a lousy excuse.

Not sure if she'll reach Vade levels of shenanigans but I'm going to follow along to see.

Phillip-Bankss is the saving grace of the Five Nights at Freddy's Tumblr fandom and he must be protected at all costs.

Also, hello, Splash! Nice to see that you're more even-tempered than we expected.

There's a few things I should explain, I guess, if you're still around and interested.

1. Most of the users here are adults, and have the advantage of hindsight on our own teenage years. I myself have a potpourri of brain problems, and they were far more extreme as a teenager. I'd outlined some very specific instances of the worst of these coping mechanisms in the Tulpa thread, where my lying to myself in order to cope with the pain of not knowing what was wrong with me lead to me running away from home. When you admit that your otherkin-ism are "delusions," it strikes me that you know it's all pretend, but very much want to believe that they're real because the truth is too painful to deal with: you're not super ultra special, you're one teen of many going through these formative years without the help you need and it's scary. The sooner you come to grips that these coping mechanisms will probably backfire on you, the better. I say this from experience.
2. I agree with you on Tumblr's SJW culture being toxic as fuck. The thread we have on Vade pretty much outlines all of your grievances with it. To me, that indicates that you're not a bad kid at all. You are in search of your identity and it will take a while for you to find it. You're going to be a very different person five years from now, and you'll be more different five years from then. Just keep that in mind before you start clinging to anything too hard.
3. If being misgendered makes you suicidal, and you have not come out to your parents or doctors, this seems to be a very big problem. I don't know if this is an overreaction or you genuinely feel like killing yourself, but that is not normal even for most people with dysphoria, as far as I know. The sooner you can talk to a professional about this, the better.
4. Something I've noticed with a lot of agender or non-binary people on Tumblr is that most of them seem to have been born female. In your opinion, do you think that this may be a reaction to society's treatment of girls and women, and wanting to opt out of the sexist treatment that women often receive the brunt of? I say this because when I was growing up, I did not want to be "one of the girls," I wanted to play with boys. Also, I wanted to be a dog, but that's besides the point. Later I came to be comfortable with being a girl once I realized I didn't have to conform to strict gender roles, even if I prefer to present as more androgynous. I pose this question not to be rude, but to perhaps allow you to ruminate on this, whether or not it might apply to yourself.

Thank you.

 

[osooolemiiio]

Also (editing this post since, at least on forums I've been on in the past, it's kinda shitty to make tons of replies in a row):
Princepup is a close friend of mine and I'd really appreciate it if you didn't misgender him either. He's also nonbinary like I am and uses he/him pronouns like me!

...Say I even believe it and won't misgender. How about no "die truscum" stamps and hatespam on dA from you both?

Splash, honestly, I don't see what stops you to think a little more of the others - especially on a site supposedly dedicated to art. I talked once to an agender dA user (who simply had it stated on profile - "Agender | They/their/them", that's it) and to an ace girl who had... something along the lines of a system you have, AFAIK. (Probably just an AU for personal stories, I dunno.) Both of them are pretty chill and I felt absolutely no wish to laugh at them. Guess why?

Both registered there to DRAW. Not take it out on random passerbys and be all "die truscum im su speshul uvu ye~~~~".

Basically what had already been said before me: both were using that in creative purposes. That and there's more cultures and mindsets to the world than just the USA and your mentality. For many of them (and yours truly), it's a person's abilities that matter. Abilities, name, lang skills, you name it - in short, their mind and the things they can create, not crotch. Heck, Pup's pixel stuff is quite nice and you have a potential as well - people would gladly help you both improve it even further, it's the attitude that drives them off.
If you don't want hate sent your way, you'll have to m'kay: would you kindly show more respect - starting at least with grammar? By the way, thanks for typing properly here. It's such a REST for the eyes after all those "o m g im laughign,,,,,,,,,,,,, read the links because" and so on.

P. S. /me just woke up and has 15 mins left till going to work, so apologies if the post's not clear enough. Any clear-ups to come later!
P.P.S.: i2symbol > uvu, hands down.

 

[Marionette]

Phillip-Bankss is the saving grace of the Five Nights at Freddy's Tumblr fandom and he must be protected at all costs.

Also, hello, Splash! Nice to see that you're more even-tempered than we expected.

There's a few things I should explain, I guess, if you're still around and interested.

1. Most of the users here are adults, and have the advantage of hindsight on our own teenage years. I myself have a potpourri of brain problems, and they were far more extreme as a teenager. I'd outlined some very specific instances of the worst of these coping mechanisms in the Tulpa thread, where my lying to myself in order to cope with the pain of not knowing what was wrong with me lead to me running away from home. When you admit that your otherkin-ism are "delusions," it strikes me that you know it's all pretend, but very much want to believe that they're real because the truth is too painful to deal with: you're not super ultra special, you're one teen of many going through these formative years without the help you need and it's scary. The sooner you come to grips that these coping mechanisms will probably backfire on you, the better. I say this from experience.
2. I agree with you on Tumblr's SJW culture being toxic as fuck. The thread we have on Vade pretty much outlines all of your grievances with it. To me, that indicates that you're not a bad kid at all. You are in search of your identity and it will take a while for you to find it. You're going to be a very different person five years from now, and you'll be more different five years from then. Just keep that in mind before you start clinging to anything too hard.
3. If being misgendered makes you suicidal, and you have not come out to your parents or doctors, this seems to be a very big problem. I don't know if this is an overreaction or you genuinely feel like killing yourself, but that is not normal even for most people with dysphoria, as far as I know. The sooner you can talk to a professional about this, the better.
4. Something I've noticed with a lot of agender or non-binary people on Tumblr is that most of them seem to have been born female. In your opinion, do you think that this may be a reaction to society's treatment of girls and women, and wanting to opt out of the sexist treatment that women often receive the brunt of? I say this because when I was growing up, I did not want to be "one of the girls," I wanted to play with boys. Also, I wanted to be a dog, but that's besides the point. Later I came to be comfortable with being a girl once I realized I didn't have to conform to strict gender roles, even if I prefer to present as more androgynous. I pose this question not to be rude, but to perhaps allow you to ruminate on this, whether or not it might apply to yourself.

Thank you.

Praise Phillip-Bankss. I don't mind Rebornica and their army of fans, but it can get tiring to see the same concepts of the characters.

On topic, I don't know a thing about being an otherkin or transgendered so I'm not going to drop in on those subjects which seem to be your biggest concerns right now. I do however have aspergers and bipolar depression so I understand your plight with having mental illness, especially anxiety disorder and panic attacks. Thankfully I was already seeing a therapist and psychiatrist at your age and I agree it helps drastically. If it must come down to it at the very least talk to your parents about it or as another person has said a school counselor. You need to understand this is a big issue and if you don't take it seriously no one else will either and play it down.

One thing I do have to say from the ages of 14 to 18 things change A LOT. Until you're 20 or so, you're going to make mistakes and do generally stupid stuff. Not saying anything that's happening to you is a phase but your illness can be exaggerated.

If you wanna talk, I'm here, I'll monitor the thread. Don't think you're getting out of that art critique though.

 

[Dilligaff]

Kittentits is right. Also, just so you know, you'll make mistakes after 20 and do generally stupid stuff too, just less often. Admittedly speaking for myself here. I sincerely hope you're able to get help for everything despite the unhelpful stance of your parents. Took me 10 years to get professional help (my own fault) and it made all the difference. Also, feel free to mock this old lady right back.