Female-aimed Trends That You Hate? - Sperg about recent trends you despise from media, make-up, social, etc

[ThePozzedOutCritic]

The way females are "expected" to like pop music, like Miley Cyrus, Beyonce, and all these other shit head musical trends.

I've never heard of this, could you elaborate?

 

[Uncle_Teds_Cabin25]

I've never heard of this, could you elaborate?

I don't know if I can, but I'll try.
I remember reading some feminist site, (early 00's, Bitch? Pandagon? Jezebel?) and it was poo pooing "guycentric" bands like Metallica , and encouraging women to see feminist acts.
It annoyed me, like women aren't supposed to like Slayer, Rammstein, Judas Priest or some other band that doesn't fit in with your politics.

 

[Stabby_Pencil]

I've never heard of this, could you elaborate?

I can confirm that bullying of this type happened in the early 00s. There indeed was a time where if you weren't into pop music you'd be outcast and bullied for liking "ungirly" things. Such as metal and DBZ.

 

[Hinttitroniikka]

I can confirm that bullying of this type happened in the early 00s. There indeed was a time where if you weren't into pop music you'd be outcast and bullied for liking "ungirly" things. Such as metal and DBZ.

I always understood this to be behind the majority of "I'm not like other girls." If other girls are bullying you for not being like them, and that's the limited experience that a teenager has of the girls she knows, sometimes the best perspective you can have is to be glad to be yourself and not be like them. I get that there's people who take it to a "pick me" extreme, but thinking back on my school days, I think the misconception is that the odd one out gets picked on for having a superiority complex, when in reality, they get a superiority complex after being ostracised. Then again, I went to school before the social media monoculture, so maybe that order of events is a relic from a bygone age, and the superiority complex comes first these days, now that everyone knows what anime and visual kei is and those kids aren't that unique anymore.

 

[Otterly]

It annoyed me, like women aren't supposed to like Slayer, Rammstein, Judas Priest or some other band that doesn't fit in with your politics.

Come sit with the Gen X ladies who are taking their teenage kids to see Metallica or Radiohead….
I think how people relate to music has changed. We used to be into all sorts of stuff, and you were maybe a bit defined by that, you’d be raver or a goth or whatever, but there wasn’t the expectation that girls didn’t like whatever band. There was the other way round, i reckon if you were a lad into some of the girly pop acts you’d had been been teased but nobody did the other way around. There were goth girls and metal girls and thriving subcultures for all sorts of music. the music was the primary driver, now I think people pit themselves in political and ideological tribes and decide what they’re all going to like.
So you’ve gone from ‘i like Judas Priest. I will go to gigs and hang out with fellow fans’ to ‘I have decided my group likes (pop) and if you don’t you’re not in my group.’ The former will find you people int the same stuff as you and the latter is being made to confirm to what whoever’s in charge is into. Sod that.
I wasn’t a metal head, i was more indie and dance but I knew plenty of girls who were, even though it was still overwhelming majority men. That’s changed too - it used to be fine to just go see bands, and even if most of their fans were guys it didn’t seem to matter at all.
I hate how gendered everything is these days and how you’ve got to subscribe to a wholesale set of other people’s opinions.
Remember too that ‘pick me’ is mainly used as a tool of control, it’s someone saying you need to confirm to what they like. You like what you like, and that’s that, IMO.

 

[Valstrax]

I know this is a really obvious pick, but I hate it when beauty brands market themselves with "unconventional beauty" like with overweight deathfats and (HURK) trannies. I just want to buy a bra, I don't want to know that your spokesperson is a stunning and brave "woman".

 

[Kiwisee]

Everytime I see a cute dress with a leopard print trim, I always end up disappointed by how thin the fabric feels.

 

[Shakira Flabbergasted]

I know this is a really obvious pick, but I hate it when beauty brands market themselves with "unconventional beauty" like with overweight deathfats and (HURK) trannies. I just want to buy a bra, I don't want to know that your spokesperson is a stunning and brave "woman".

I hate it when the models are covered in so many tattoos that it's hard to even see what the clothes would look like on a normal person. If this trend doesn't die soon, we'll be getting underwear models with visible self-harm scars. No one tell me if it's already happened. I want to remain innocent.

 

[Scream Tail]

I know it's been said but I really hate the whore clothes for little girls trend. I had a hell of a time finding age appropriate shirts and dresses for some Christmas presents. I don't particularly want my 7 yo daughter dressing like she worked on Epstein's Island.

 

[Melony C]

the whore clothes for little girls trend

And when it's all pink? Gotta make sure your daughter dresses like the biggest trailer trash heroin whore on the block

 

[hotpocalypse]

The deer print trend. Super cute pattern but 80% of the stuff with the pattern looks like cheap shein shit. Animal prints in general are hard to pull off

 

[Lady Bizness]

I don't know if I can, but I'll try.
I remember reading some feminist site, (early 00's, Bitch? Pandagon? Jezebel?) and it was poo pooing "guycentric" bands like Metallica , and encouraging women to see feminist acts.
It annoyed me, like women aren't supposed to like Slayer, Rammstein, Judas Priest or some other band that doesn't fit in with your politics.

For the millionth time I do not give a rats ass that Robert Plant fucked a teenager and wore her shirt on stage. I mean, I guess I care in that I don't like it but I'm still going to get high and dance on the coffee table to Black Dog. And no, there is no feminist-approved alternative.

 

[DeeNaMeeTay]

Celebrities on red carpets that wear (or are forced to wear) a sheer see-through dress with bikinis and pasties. It is made worse when men are fully clothed in their plain black tuxedos. Feels like they are pimping out the women.

 

[Arbiter]

in their plain black tuxedos

A lot of them don't even put in this effort anymore. It's acceptable now for men to wear streetnigger athleisure to red carpet events as long as it's branded and expensive. Men literally showing up in sweat pants, tshirts, and sneakers.

 

[Birthday Cat]

I hate it when the models are covered in so many tattoos that it's hard to even see what the clothes would look like on a normal person. If this trend doesn't die soon, we'll be getting underwear models with visible self-harm scars. No one tell me if it's already happened. I want to remain innocent.

i'd like to piggyback on this and join it with "purposefully making themselves look ugly". the bull rings etc that's spread like wildfire, the general leftist radfem trendy outfit with the specifically shit on purpose koolaid hair. 2000s etc had a wide array of piercings in conventionally attractive ways, like bellydancer-ish, and it's easy to copy what worked. in general fashion and trends seem to be following modern abstract art and are just absolute dog shit, but it's popular so it's copied. tik tok psychos probably also contributed. tons of conventionally beautiful men and women that ruin themselves like they damn got chucked into a sa thresher and never want anyone to approach them again.

honestly i've been mentally gaslit by tattoos, i've seen people that place tattoos in specific areas with a specific theme that are at least interesting and don't remove attraction, or possibly help accentuate curves so boost it, or show off pecs etc, but i swear it's just remained stuck at like the rock, (his new ver is shit tho), and the occasional porn star like riley reid, which accentuates her back (though i remember seeing a random gif on pol or something, i sincerely hope it was fucking body paint, of a woman whose entire rear was a lion face). you also get some like tyson whose face tat is, opinion, iconic and cool, and doesn't detract from his face, but then his body tats just look retarded, and 90%+ of people with new tats just look like anisa johma but with a "randomize" button

 

[Friend of Dorothy Parker]

Come sit with the Gen X ladies who are taking their teenage kids to see Metallica or Radiohead….
I think how people relate to music has changed. We used to be into all sorts of stuff, and you were maybe a bit defined by that, you’d be raver or a goth or whatever, but there wasn’t the expectation that girls didn’t like whatever band. There was the other way round, i reckon if you were a lad into some of the girly pop acts you’d had been been teased but nobody did the other way around. There were goth girls and metal girls and thriving subcultures for all sorts of music. the music was the primary driver, now I think people pit themselves in political and ideological tribes and decide what they’re all going to like.
So you’ve gone from ‘i like Judas Priest. I will go to gigs and hang out with fellow fans’ to ‘I have decided my group likes (pop) and if you don’t you’re not in my group.’ The former will find you people int the same stuff as you and the latter is being made to confirm to what whoever’s in charge is into. Sod that.
I wasn’t a metal head, i was more indie and dance but I knew plenty of girls who were, even though it was still overwhelming majority men. That’s changed too - it used to be fine to just go see bands, and even if most of their fans were guys it didn’t seem to matter at all.
I hate how gendered everything is these days and how you’ve got to subscribe to a wholesale set of other people’s opinions.
Remember too that ‘pick me’ is mainly used as a tool of control, it’s someone saying you need to confirm to what they like. You like what you like, and that’s that, IMO.

This is so very very true, and I am so glad for the reality check/ confirm - current year is a massive gaslighter. I really hate that "these days" nothing can just be organic. People immediately look for a box or a label and immediately stop thinking - far beyond being a metalhead or goth girl or a Jet or a Shark. It's like people now seem to think that they can't be (or other people can't be) just whatever they like without it being either political or gender-based. It was no big deal when I was a teen if a girl liked Priest or some pre-industrial scream-goth band - sure, it put her in that fan group (her preference) and she probably tended to hang with others in the same or similar fan groups*, but it had zero to do with her being a girl.

* Ngl, there were social strata that often aligned to style, which also often overlapped with music preferences, but for someone otherwise in x social group, their music or aesthetic preferences didn't change that - and again it was never, "oh, she's not feminine because she likes x music.". And that's even in high school, the absolute jungle for teens.

By college - and I mean first year - unless someone made a point of choosing to self-select to hang with a certain set, no one else cared or judged to the point of others being crushed by it. You did you. Yes, if you wanted to pledge KKG, you'd probably have wanted to wear a Laura Ashley print to Rush parties rather than a faded black Priest tee (unless an iron-clad legacy, ofc, ofc), but there was no, "ooh, girls can't/ don't like Zeppelin." (And certainly not a follow-on of, "maybe you're actually a boy."). It's SOOOO stupid and depressing to hear this kind of retarded thinking (so don't listen to that kind of garbage opinion!). I'm not saying peer pressure didn't exist - of course it did. But it's become perceived as so unique and/ or has become so extreme, beyond any realm of reasonableness. (I should add that I don't see or hear of this nearly so much or so strongly irl as I do online...but a lot of people are online and apparently vulnerable to media in very literal ways, so it's a problem.)

I know it's been said but I really hate the whore clothes for little girls trend. I had a hell of a time finding age appropriate shirts and dresses for some Christmas presents. I don't particularly want my 7 yo daughter dressing like she worked on Epstein's Island.

Examples of outfits you saw like this?

 

[Valstrax]

I know it's been said but I really hate the whore clothes for little girls trend. I had a hell of a time finding age appropriate shirts and dresses for some Christmas presents. I don't particularly want my 7 yo daughter dressing like she worked on Epstein's Island.

Why would ANYONE think that's remotely a good idea???

 

[Shakira Flabbergasted]

Examples of outfits you saw like this?

Not that poster, but when I'm out and about I frequently see girls under 10 dressed in booty shorts and crop tops, faux leather miniskirts, transparent sparkly shirts worn over a bikini top, etc. They must be getting these child-size stripper clothes from somewhere. I expect the girls are asking for them because they see them on social media, and the parents don't have the good sense to say no.

 

[Friend of Dorothy Parker]

Not that poster, but when I'm out and about I frequently see girls under 10 dressed in booty shorts and crop tops, faux leather miniskirts, transparent sparkly shirts worn over a bikini top, etc. They must be getting these child-size stripper clothes from somewhere. I expect the girls are asking for them because they see them on social media, and the parents don't have the good sense to say no.

Good God. Little kids where I am still dress like Hanna Andersson catalogs (whether or not in clothes actually from there).

 

[Shakira Flabbergasted]

Good God. Little kids where I am still dress like Hanna Andersson catalogs (whether or not in clothes actually from there).

I knew a little girl growing up who was obsessed with Hanna Andersson and took immaculate care of the one outfit she had that was brand name HA. It's good to know that there are still girls out there who like age-appropriate stuff.