What's your negging story? - Because every woman has experienced it once

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Nique la mere de Macron powiedział(a):
Right before I blocked him, a gentleman with whom I'd been on one date instructed me to make him a sandwich and if I did, he would come to my house and tell me everything that's wrong with it.

However did I resist???
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I don't understand how some men think that a woman would automatically do stuff for them like serving them food or whatever.

Like dude, I am not your mom tf you looking at me for? Don't you know how to operate a toaster??

Did he tell you that you were a terrible woman for not doing what he wanted and however could you resist such a catch?
 
men get backhanded compliments all the time but with women is always systemic oppression . Ladies, ask yourselves, how many times have you been catty to someone, including other women? are you a negger?
 
LinkinParkxNaruto[AMV] powiedział(a):
men get backhanded compliments all the time but with women is always systemic oppression . Ladies, ask yourselves, how many times have you been catty to someone, including other women? are you a negger?
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Being a bitch isn't negging. Begging someone for a favor/nudes/sex and when they say no you go nuts and start to insult them in the hope they feel a need to prove your wrong by doing whatever they wanted is.
Someone being catty isn't the same as someone insulting you for not sending them nudes, homie
 
Once a woman I approached tried negging me by saying I was being way too creepy and stank of alcohol and vomit and to leave her alone before she called the police.
 
Many years ago a guy who was very into PUA and proud of it (I learned this after this incident) started chatting me up, said I had a nice face etc, then later said that I have cankles. I said yeah I know. He looked at me speechless for a couple of seconds and then turned around and left. I didn't even realize he was negging me. His facial expression and shameful walk were so jarring to me at the time that I wondered if I had offended him somehow. Turns out I did but he deserved it lol
LinkinParkxNaruto[AMV] powiedział(a):
catty
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Using the term "catty" to describe women is one of the marks of a true moid. At least your username is funny.
 
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DespotCTM powiedział(a):
Being a bitch isn't negging. Begging someone for a favor/nudes/sex and when they say no you go nuts and start to insult them in the hope they feel a need to prove your wrong by doing whatever they wanted is.
Someone being catty isn't the same as someone insulting you for not sending them nudes, homie
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As the other poster said, this isn't negging.

Negging is a PUA term where the objective is to insult someone to bring their self esteem down to make them more receptive to future advances from the negger.

You don't neg someone after you've been rejected. You neg first, before trying anything, to get their self worth down so low that any advance from them seems super special and how could you turn this miracle down.

Having a tantrum about not getting nudes it just being a man child.
 
CharcoalChkn powiedział(a):
As the other poster said, this isn't negging.

Negging is a PUA term where the objective is to insult someone to bring their self esteem down to make them more receptive to future advances from the negger.

You don't neg someone after you've been rejected. You neg first, before trying anything, to get their self worth down so low that any advance from them seems super special and how could you turn this miracle down.

Having a tantrum about not getting nudes it just being a man child.
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It's funtion is twofold, maybe threefold. To establish higher status (by dropping the comment casually), maybe to lower the womans relative status but most importantly to make a comment that is ambiguous so that it and the person who made it will remain in the thoughts of the person recieving the neg.

You say something like wearing this and that together is really hard to pull off but you managed it or that's a powerful nose but your face balances it out. Stuff like that.

Works on men to if you phrase it right. Tried to demonstate the concept to a coworker by commenting on another guys accessory and he was still bringing that up months later.

I'm not a PUA by any means i just found that the manoshpere blogs explained female psychology in a way that corresponded to observed reality.

Most of this thread is the receiving end of the right panel.
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DespotCTM powiedział(a):
He went fucking off and told me that I wasn't all that and should feel honoured and grateful that someone wanted my nudes/I would be a lonely bitch/Why wasn't I interested in giving him my subpar nudes etc etc. It went on for close to an hour until he finally dropped it
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That's not negging, that's legit psychotic
 
I hadn't experienced negging all that much back in my dating years - then again I enjoy some fun repartee with men and can take a joke.
I had experienced a lot of pathetic PUA shit though, but it's so obvious and stupid that I was half entertained by it.
But there was one legendary neg. "You're not as funny as you think you are." This was the first thing this dude even said to me and I hadn't even spoken to him yet. He must have overheard me talking with some friends at the party or he just showed up and thought, that looks like a chick whose ego is in her sense of humor. Props to him on his almost correct observation.
Anyway, one thing led to another and he tried to invite himself over to my place (next door) to look at my art and I said no and wished him luck with his +$100k student loan debt. (He was 30 years old.)
If he would have been good looking and not had a bunch of debt and no job, I may have shown him my art.
 
Not A Bunny powiedział(a):
Ghosting gets a lot of people revved up, but frankly, there's nothing wrong with it.

I have encountered plenty of men who probably have no self-awareness about why I wasn't interested, but it wasn't my job to explain what was wrong to someone I just met, and who would take from that: "Oh, I need to do this to keep you" as opposed to "Oh, I wasn't out-of-the-box right for this person, so it was never going to work out".

The best possible strategy sometimes is to disengage because it isn't worth the energy.
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I used to be very anti-ghost and now I am pro-ghost. I used to explain to people (men) why I was going to end the friendship/conversation and move on with my life and they always, without fail, had a massive chimpout and needed to be blocked on all platforms. One guy kept sending shit (not literally) to my house for almost a year.
 
I think "Post your backhanded complement/two-faced poor social skills dating attempts/negging" interactions is too long for a thread title, and for the sake of fucking brevity "Post your negging story" is just easier to say even if the behavior is not the precise definition. The overall behavior of openly disrespecting someone and thinking it's ok to say to a potential partner or flipping out and going from nice guy to "nice guy" is the common thread.

There's a time and place for autistic distinction but I think it's fine here. Besides, we got other good thread titles out of it.

Edit: Post about poor (fe)male dating interactions? Post about suitors failing to respect you? I'm not autistic enough today for this.
 
Oh okay. Then should I tell the one about the short guy at a jazz club getting all riled up about my muscles and how I could crush him and how he eventually let on that his tactic was to bother me until I became violent and then crushed him?
He was not crushed by me.
 
How does one go from dragon age builds (it better be DA Origins anything else and you deserve suffering) to asking for nudes. "So yeah i like dual wielding warriors ANYWAY SHOW DEM TIDDIES" how the fuck do you change the subject to that
 
Eggward biscuitbottom powiedział(a):
How does one go from dragon age builds (it better be DA Origins anything else and you deserve suffering) to asking for nudes. "So yeah i like dual wielding warriors ANYWAY SHOW DEM TIDDIES" how the fuck do you change the subject to that
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Ladies and gentlemen i regret to say :

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