I’m detailing all this because I know Ralph’s wetbrain has totally rewritten reality to flatter himself. Ralph has always used visits to Xander as excuses to try and do other things. The very few visits he made that were pretty straightforward visits just to see his Xander he was sullen and grim. The visits he tried to include Dick, Mary Jane or Tijuana whores he was upbeat and excited. Xander is a footnote and he wouldn’t visit him at all without SM pressure or as way to pivot the visit for other activities, particular forcing social interactions with anyone in California he can rope in.
I know we talk about how uncomfortable it must be for Xanduh when he's whisked away to the government facility for a supervised visit with his dear ol' dad, but there's no way Ralph isn't even more uncomfortable. It's not like caring about anyone else comes naturally to da Ralphamale in the first place, and every rare encounter with Xanduh just has to be the most awkward thing ever.
To be the mandatory government supervisor in the room, watching this
father without any real connection to his son, timidly attempt to interact. Yet exactly as you mentioned, visiting Xanduh wasn't enough to incentivise Ralph, it was all the other shit. Which stands the fuck out, like a black dude at a klam rally, when Xanduh visits dropped off a cliff after daddeh Juju disowned his pigly e-son*.
*- Though I'll always look back fondly at the pure cringe when Ralph would pathetically and repeatedly xeet at Juju to desperately inform him he was in the area. Especially when it was blatantly obvious how much that shit embarrassed Juju (as it would anyone) while their relationship was already severed. The problem was Juju never directly told Ralph to stay away, and Ralph has a profound inability to 'take the hint' when it comes to things like this. However, it is curious how da Ralphamale has never had himself a good hollerin' over his daddeh (and KILLSTREAM HoF inductee, which was also a delightfully cringe stream) absconding him. IMO, Juju eas a different, more personal type of e-daddeh for Ralph.
Either way, It's all really just an amazing thing to watch. Not only is everything related to Xanduh the direct product of Ralph's retarded actions, actions of which da gaylogs heavily and sincerely advised against, but his pathological insistence to impotently own da gaylogs by larping he lubs his son is all just so ridiculous. Like nigga. Ralph is a stranger to Xanduh just as much as Xanduh is a stranger Ralph. The fact he poorly pretends otherwise is a mixture of surreal sadness and plain silliness.