I’ve got an almost 80 year old Dad who is an absolute freeloader. He moved in part time with me (also lives part time with my sister). An agreement was made that he’d pay a ridiculously small room and board fee and he does sometimes pay it as a reimbursement. He tries to get out of it though and has on occasion. We have taken him on trips with us. Bought him lunch out. Bought him reading glasses, denture trays and many other supplies and he has NEVER considered reimbursing us for any of it. No chipping in for gas for driving him around. He will never offer to buy our lunch or ice cream if we are out. He’s just here, being a financial burden even though he knows we are struggling financially. Right now we are facing a several thousand dollar roof repair. So there goes any fun summer activities with our kids. He is the type of guy who saves boatloads of cash, won’t invest it. Instead he had it squirreled away but my sister convinced him to get a safe deposit box. Which she is now a secondary key holder on. He has quite a lot of money but seems to think using me and my family is fine and now appears to be using it as a weapon to cause a rift between my sister and I. He has accused me of stealing money from him on numerous occasions. One of the times, I was probably 18 or 19, we were camping and he had on a previous trip buried a bunch of cash up in the mountains. Well, he thought I went up there and dug it up and took it. I didn’t even know how much he’d buried or where exactly. He was drunk and furiously digging around, yelling at me. Eventually it was getting dark and he was fully drunk driving and enraged w/ me as a passenger, screaming at me the entire way home on scary dirt roads w/ switchbacks. I actually, at the time, was so distressed and traumatized to the point I wanted him to drive us off a cliff. It was unbearable! He of course later found the money. No apology given. Now I think, since he has such a low opinion of me, I should have stolen money from him. His opinion of me, despite all I’ve done for him would be the same either way it seems.