- Dołączono
- 27 Sie 2015
This pisses me off so much. Specially coming from troons who are PARTICULARLY unsympathetic about real abuse.
I won't go into the really nasty details, but I lived under very real physical/psychological/economical abuse from my mother until very recently. That shit is not a fucking joke. An abusive parent goes out of the way to make sure you can't escape, form connections, have any independence and, over all else, make sure there's a facade so social services can't come save you (yes, save). Also anything that contradicts the lies they tell gets you beaten extra hard. Even telling someone you had a sandwich for lunch can have your body meet a wall at high velocity and two days of constant shouting because it doesn't match her lie about cooking a fine French Cuisine© ohlala lavish lunch that day. The rules change constantly, and having good grades and a stable job can't save you. Study hard, work full time, have an empty wallet. The hoard needs to grow, so you'll never save enough to even rent a hotel room for a day. Get a bank account she doesn't hold the key for, or try to leave? Threaten to injure herself and call the cops, good luck getting out of that with a clean record if you are a dude. Then a shower of random objects against your head or having the few things you have get broken in narc rage. And if some edgelord tells me I should have beaten her up: go back to fucking twitter, dipshit, that would solve nothing. All you can do is escape and never look back as soon as you get a chance, then try to heal until you finally reach the normalcy you never had.
Because the worst thing is that most of these things don't seem weird until someone tells you they aren't. That's the power a parent holds over a kid, even grown up, if they want to be dicks about it. Specially if you aren't alone and another sibling reinforces the effect. You know "don't challenge her", "it's not worth it", "it's not as bad as that other time", "what happens to me if you leave?", etc.
Because the worst thing is that most of these things don't seem weird until someone tells you they aren't. That's the power a parent holds over a kid, even grown up, if they want to be dicks about it. Specially if you aren't alone and another sibling reinforces the effect. You know "don't challenge her", "it's not worth it", "it's not as bad as that other time", "what happens to me if you leave?", etc.
I'm saying this because context is needed. "Abuse" is not getting a light slap or stern talk for flooding the kitchen or wanting to yeet the teets, it's getting beaten up until you change colors (and for kids of a certain age "he fell playing on the park" covers a lot of ground in terms of visible injuries) for getting a 99.9% on a test or telling the truth about mundane events that shouldn't be relevant to anyone except the crazy narc shit toying with your life. You cannot predict what little bit of nothing will raise a horrible storm and for how long. And narcs don't fucking forget. Ever.
And now we have these fucking babies calling "abuse" just being told "no" or trying to correct or discipline their shitty behavior. They just took over another real problem and made it another cult tactic with no real meaning. A bizarre mixture of crying wolf while also using it as an excuse for shitty behavior. And while at it, perpetuate stereotypes like "the abuser will abuse", how convenient.
Because you fucking know, deep down, where this is going. Sexual abuse is next, and then it's of course going to end in "I was molested by my dad so I can't help molesting this child, it's in my genes I can't fight it I'M THE VICTIM HERE" (when the dad just entered the bathroom while he was fapping or something. I mean they are making it up, basically) while making actual victims that might be awkward and scarred, but aren't beating up or raping people, have to get judged as the dangerous ones.
And at the same time making a kid saying "I was abused" be not taken seriously because far more and louder people are repeating the same origin story. Victims get dismissed, bad actors get applauded.
This, my farmers, is power. Oppressed my ass, when even individual troons can force changes, worldwide, they have power none of us will ever have. Fuck, I don't think even mid-tier "known-by-name" politicians have this much sway right now.
I'm sorry, I'm fucking seeing red over this shit, but it's worth the scouters and trash cans and top hats. How fucking dare they. I wish I could just tell them this to their faces, how this shit really is, but now I can be fined more for it than for leaking my work's databases to the Chinese. Specially when you can fucking tell why they are doing it, even without any central authority guiding them. Fucking bourgeois pieces of shit. I hope their lies to backfire on them spectacularly. We used to be able to maul this pedo scum, now they run the public square and you better not be mean to them because they got ears everywhere. Fucking clown world.
