Do you guys think when tons of people defend Becky in the comments, Amber gets nastier off-screen? I sometimes wonder about that, especially when I see comments with 200+ likes that say for example:
"becky if you’re reading this... just leave. you can do it. you owe this awful woman nothing."
It would be great if just ONCE, Becky could break out of her Pavlovian conditioning and bite back. Kinda like Peetz does on occasion with Chantal and it's refreshing because everyone's thinking it, but he's the only one in a position to say it.
Becky should take a page out of Amber's book and be just as cunning. Say something revealing that only she could know, but say it loud, confidently and with a smile. Then, and this is very important Becky if you're reading here---make sure to lovebomb her afterwards, so she's confused out of her mind.
This approach accomplishes a couple things:
1. It reminds Amber--in a subtle way--that her partner has some power here as well.
And
2. If Becky's consistent enough in covertly shaming her publicly, then Amber learns where healthy boundaries lie, and is now put on notice, that if she dishes it, she better be prepared to take it.
(Spoiler: She can't!)
Think about how affectionate and grossly-sexual Amber's last relationship was. And she was dating a 13 year-old boy sloth. What could she have possibly been attracted to? I bet 100% it was the fact that Destiny didn't put up with her bullshit and frequently called her out on it. Amber respects and is attracted to assertive people that aren't afraid to stand up for themselves. A quality Becky lacks entirely.
Honestly, this is sage advice for anyone in an emotionally-abusive relationship: If you can't respect yourself to get out entirely, then you need to flip the script because it's the only way to reclaim any power with people like this. Setting yourself on fire to keep another person warm is not love.