I’ve had a fascination with religion since I was quite young. I was the kind of kid who would bug dad to take me to church on Sundays, especially once I got to age 10 or so. We are Episcopalian, I was an active acolyte throughout middle and high school. It brings you closer to God and it made a big impression on my formation; my sister would sometimes tell me other kids made fun of her because of my zealotry. No matter. I’ve also had a long fascination with Judaism, which peaked when I tried to become one 2014-16. I learned that you really can’t change your religion… the people who successfully convert never fit into their original faith very well. I used to do all their things, I still do some of them. Mostly prayers before eating and stuff.
I practice modest dress. I don’t like wearing shirts without sleeves, dresses that cut off above the knee, and I always wear leggings or bike shorts (if it is hot) under my dresses and skirts. I used to not do that but the idea of my skirt coming loose or flapping up and exposing me makes me real anxious now.
I like dressing up on Sundays. I wear my engagement ring instead of my wedding ring. I think of Sundays as a taste of the kingdom of heaven; time to worship, be with community, enjoy one’s family, and be your most fabulous self. I dress up the baby on Sundays too, I got her some Burberry Baby stuff on eBay for reasonable-ish prices. I make sure she gets her blessing every week from the priest.
It took me months after joining my current congregation before I felt OK taking communion with them. To me being a communicant in a given church is very meaningful and I don’t take from churches i am only visiting,
I don’t have sex at that time of the month. Not in any way. It’s a time for me and my body’s renewal and I don’t want to have sex at those times. It’ll last for a few days after the end of the period, although I do not mark it with immersion or whatever (it’s degrading imo).
The baby hasn’t been baptized yet. I’m waiting until she is old enough to take those vows for herself. Infant baptisms are cute but it has always made me a bit uncomfortable when parents make these solemn promises on behalf of kids who are too young to comprehend them.
another Jew thing: I won’t handle money during worship. I think it’s profane and dirty and if it were up to me I’d stop the offertory altogether. The sight of everyone digging in their wallets for cash and checks during the offertory anthem is a distraction imo. I may sometimes give money before service by putting it in the collection plate in the back room. I won’t involve myself in counting offertory after worship. Instead I set up auto-donation off my CC to be debited monthly towards my annual pledge.
I try to be a generous and kind person, recently through alms giving and donation to certain charities (Dedham Food Bank, Greater Boston Food Bank, and Animal Rescue League of Boston) in addition to the annual pledge.
I have a couple lay ministries going in addition to my job (church-related but secular work.) I’m the acolyte Marshal and I organize the acolytes, train them, schedule them, and keep their vestments and implements in good order. I’m still learning this job. It’s one thing to be an acolyte, but teaching older children the job requires a slightly different set of skills. Ñ I’m a lay Eucharistic minister, which is basically the adult version of an acolyte. That permits me to do some cool stuff (I get to impose ashes on the priest on Ash Wednesday), and help distribute communion. It also gets me out of the position of having to turn down the offertory plate, since the clergy aren’t asked to give during worship.
I love my faith. It has restored me and brought me out of the depths of doubt and jadedness. It was an antidote to the woke liberal secularism that has replaced religion for so many people. I’ve traveled far and struggled with some of the hard questions, and I’ve got a peace to show for it that I wouldn’t have if I had just complacently practiced without asking questions.