Hey Y'all.
It's that time of year again.
Where I get all personal on social media and talk about some issues I have.
If you're just here for the goofs, now's your chance to not read any further.
For those of you ready to delve in...
I'm an alcoholic and today, I am 7 years sober.
And... it's not getting easier.
This might sound like a defeatist way to start this but that's my first thought.
I truly though it would get a lot better year by year.
It might be the state of the world, the state of The States, or just the warm and muggy weather... but man I want a drink!
I also realize, that that's my problem.
Drinking was a way to turn my brain off to the world.
So now, I'm here, just raw-dogging the fluctuating economy... like a CHUMP!
So, in times like these where I want a drink... what do I do?
Firstly, I remember how shitty hangovers felt.
Then, I remember that sobriety is about taking some control back in my life.
It's about making sure that I am present in my life.
and THAT'S the big one for me.
I was never a bad drunk... in fact, I could hold my liquor well.
BUT I was always taking time and energy looking for WHERE and WHEN I could drink.
Get togethers with friends, where's the beers?
Family meet-up, should I bring some whisky?
Kids birthday party... surely the parents want drinks?
So here's where this comes to a head.
7 years ago, we're planning a family trip to Lego Land Florida (yes in July!!) with the kids.
A couple of days before we head out, I start going through head math about when I can drink, how much I can have during the day, how much after the kids go to sleep...
Keep in mind, I haven't packed my clothes yet!
And I'm doing the math about when I can drink...
This hit me hard.
This is where all my "maybe I am, maybe I'm not" thinking snaps into place.
My first day of non-drinking was July 2nd, then we flew to Florida and I spend 3 days sweating my BALLS OFF!
It's Florida, in July. So I didn't feel great!
But, I was present, mentally.
My drinking didn't dictate where I needed to be, so I was free just to go with the flow and have a great (all be it very wet) family vacation.
So this is where I go if I need a reminder about why I'm still sober.
Last night, I took my youngest to his first concert (MUSE) and I didn't have to plan it around where I'd be drinking.
And I don't use the word "have" lightly.
There was a time when I was planning my life around drinking.
It never got bad... like the drunk dude we saw get escorted out of the concert!
I don't think I did any damage to the people around me, but I did isolate myself to drink.
I spent time and energy away from my friends and family to make drinking a part of my life.
And hopefully, I got a hold of it.
Getting a hold of it MEANS that I confront my wantings whenever they come up.
Vocalizing my issues and leaning on the people around me when I need to blow off steam.
Understanding that the craving might never go away.
Then recognizing what they are, and moving through them instead of ignoring them.
Thanks for listening.
Doing these yearly check-ins have helped me reflect on my sobriety and take stock.
I've heard that these posts have helped others on their own paths.
If so, try to find a support network, talk to doctors, and take things a day at a time.
I'm just some clown, but I believe in you!