Online Dating Grievance Thread - All I need is a toy and any will do

[Ygolonac]

It irritates me when men deliberately omit disclosing their job or whether they have children in their profile (for sites that have you fill out stats along with a bio). They're never men I'd be interested in anyway, but who do they think they're fooling?

Then there's the guys who "might want kids" when they're like 45. Buddy you better figure it out real fast. It rankles me because some of them outright say they'd be willing to have a child if their partner wanted one. It implies that they either don't understand the amount of work that goes into raising a human being, or worse, they don't think they'll be involved enough in the parenting process for it to make a big difference.

Whether you want a kid or not depends entirely on the other person ... it's literally the two of you becoming one flesh. Having children isn't even a question if you are in love, and foolish and selfish if you aren't. Having an ambivalent attitude for it is fairly healthy in my opinion, it makes it less likely you will rush into it because you already made the decision you want a child, or wait too long because you already decided you don't want a kid before hand; potentially regretting it after.

 

[escampar]

This is also why you can't be blaming "autism", because a proper autist learns how the system works and learns how to work the system.

I understand...

 

[Raven of the Burning God]

It irritates me when men deliberately omit disclosing their job or whether they have children in their profile (for sites that have you fill out stats along with a bio). They're never men I'd be interested in anyway, but who do they think they're fooling?

I usually kept track of what sort of people messaged me and what they chose to mention as I made changes to my online profile (or trends I observed about other people with similar information). Or more generally, when dealing with unwelcome attention, just outright ask "hey, what about my profile made you wanna message me?" and then go edit that part.

So you being irritated (and self-filtering) might be the desired outcome. And you get to feel clever for not being fooled. Win-win.

 

[thread rapist]

genuine question for the secular, are dating app still common place? are they still the 'default' for meeting a new fwb/love of your life?