everlasting loneliness

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It's okay to feel lonely, we're a social animal, it's natural to feel distress if we don't have another human or two to kick the shit with. Pick up a hobby that forces you out and among others, swap out for something else if you can't find people to connect with there. It's all a numbers game and it can take a while to find people on your level, it might feel hopeless for the longest of time, but keeping up the search will keep you occupied until you stumble across a fellow retard. Life's easier working with a goal in mind.

If it counts as anything though you're one of my favourite shit posters here and I'd notice if you were gone. I hope things pick up for you friend. :)
 
you have some options

1. my recommendation is find Jesus. Hard if you don't actually believe but if you can find it in you to turn to Him church parishes are great I've found them very welcoming friendly people even for a weirdo such as myself.

2. find yourself a BPD girl. they're attracted like sharks to blood to guys like you, let her ruin your life and you'll never regret being alone again. Bit of a shock therapy though tbh. Also she might knife you in your sleep or burn your life savings/private property down, but hey at least you'd get a taste of the not-lonely life I guess 🤷‍♂️
 
you really gotta build a social circle, there's no substitute for it. I don't mean online either, although that helps. literally just make as many friends as you can and don't allow cynicism to swallow you up.

What's wrong with being alone? There's nothing to be afraid of.

Everyone dies alone. People who are engaged almost never die together. When you're alone on your deathbed the only peace you can make is with yourself. Let yourself feel lonely, don't repress it. It's ok to be lonely sometimes.

And get the fuck off the internet, faggot.

this is some backwards ass cope. you don't have to gaslight yourself about always having beloved friends and family at your side for every second, but "haha everyone is alone in the end bro get used to it!!!" is bugbrain shit. zyzz would be disappointed in you.

Wait until you are older. Your circle just keeps getting smaller because your remaining friends have changed, or had kids, or DIED, or whatever.

"The world has turned and left me here..."

Better get used to loneliness and find a way to entertain yourself, it's only downhill from here.

of course people change and not everyone sticks around, maintaining a social circle is a constant project, you don't just top up on friends and then coast for the rest of your life. it's only downhill if you allow yourself to be too lazy or bitter to put in the effort, faggot. the only person responsible for your shrinking social life is you.

Grab some pills valerian in them. They'll help you take the edge off. Also, stop overthinking and get a pet.

a pet may or may not be helpful but it's crazy how much proper nutrition and herbal supplements combined with just regular healthy habits like sleep, exercise etc can revolutionize your life. sometimes the best answer to having an existential crisis is to just take care of your body.
 
I like these crisis type moments.

Anyways dude, just keep your shit together until you can be alone without feeling poignantly lonely and you’ll level up. You’ll get a +10 hidden bonus to luck and a temporary “serendipity” aura buff.

Don’t listen to all the homos talking about us being a social species and everything. Like, sure, to a point, but an adult male who calls himself a man doesn’t ever get ENOUGH time alone and it becomes sacred to him. That’s why our dads went hunting.. chances aren’t great for getting a deer on any specific day, but spending a day alone in the woods is it’s own reward, and moving beyond your current crisis is a step towards the stoicism men are supposed to have.
 
On a profound level, we are ultimately alone because we can't ever actually show ourselves to another or truly see them. Only the surface of words and actions.

I don't believe there's an easy cope for this, or any cope at all. It's simply, per definition, the human condition. Accept it with equanimity.
 
Sounds like what you need is a boyfriend free girl. I’ve heard that posting signs at your local university advertising what you’re looking for in a woman is a pretty successful venture.
 
Use the internet to help you go outside. By that I mean like - get ideas to help with any anxiety issues. Research hobbies online and look up local places you can go to possibly meet people. Make sure not to use too much social media because it just reinforces the lonely feeling.

Also don't feel like you have to hurry. It takes some time but that's fine because you're improving yourself while it happens.

or just join Fishtank 2
 
Whatever you do, don't listen to these faggots telling you to accept Jesus or some shit.

It's in moments of weakness like this that all abusive entities will try to prey on you, from narcissistic individuals to drug peddlers to religions to the LGBTQ groomers to the commies.

All you can do is work on yourself. Accept solitude (because it needn't be a bad thing) and move on; or leave your comfort zone and try to meet people; or go deeper into some of your interests and maybe you'll meet people in the process; or work out, it tends to help mental health (and obviously having a healthier body is good in itself); or get a pet, it'll help you feel less alone, give you some purpose outside yourself, and it may even lead to meeting people; or try to find the root of this mania that torments you, and deal with it head on (I'm wary of recommending therapy, because they're just as likely to prey on you, but sometimes it helps. It's just difficult to find a good one you can trust)

Just don't give some third parties control of your personal fulfillment. More so people who will fill your head with lies, and make your happiness contingent on those lies.
 
It's not everlasting, because you'll die eventually. Sooner rather than later, because lonely people have a higher mortality rate.

Self-pity is the ultimate form of egoism. Get over yourself.
 
You're 20 and have a ton of living ahead of you. Like has mentioned before: Getting a job, obtaining financial freedom, and moving out of mom's is a great goal to shoot for. It will assist in both your feelings of loneliness and in independence.
 
this is some backwards ass cope. you don't have to gaslight yourself about always having beloved friends and family at your side for every second, but "haha everyone is alone in the end bro get used to it!!!" is bugbrain shit. zyzz would be disappointed in you.
Making peace with your mortality, the anxiety of being alone forever and working on yourself are not mutually exclusive.

There's a difference between being alone and being lonely. You can be in a conversation with someone sitting next to you and still feel lonely because you can't connect with them. You can be alone in a room and not feel lonely because you're chatting with some e-thot on discord.
You are a pedantic nigger.
 
I like these crisis type moments.

Anyways dude, just keep your shit together until you can be alone without feeling poignantly lonely and you’ll level up. You’ll get a +10 hidden bonus to luck and a temporary “serendipity” aura buff.

Don’t listen to all the homos talking about us being a social species and everything. Like, sure, to a point, but an adult male who calls himself a man doesn’t ever get ENOUGH time alone and it becomes sacred to him. That’s why our dads went hunting.. chances aren’t great for getting a deer on any specific day, but spending a day alone in the woods is it’s own reward, and moving beyond your current crisis is a step towards the stoicism men are supposed to have.

This. And in a lot of social species the males move away and build a new group or join another one. Move out into the real world and be kind to strangers but stand your ground and you will eventually find yourself in a new circumstance.
 
You're not alone, man. Alone is solitary confinement for something you didn't do.

But alright, maybe you feel that way and can't help it and you probably know why too - bad habits, lack of initiative, cruel people in your life. You might hear this and dismiss it because you hear it all the time, but seriously: hit the gym. It really works and unlike all the gym bros I'll tell you why it works. The simplest 30 minute load on your body releases adrenaline and a whole bunch of other chemicals which make you feel good for a few hours afterwards. You do need to work a little bit harder. The first time you go, you'll get nauseous from the overload but once you're done, you'll get that rush. Pick a gym where you can shower afterwards. Make it once a week at first and keep going and you'll find yourself going 2-3 times a week as the rush wears off. Don't expect "gains" you'll be the same flabby self 1-2 months in, but will see improvement if you keep at it. Better cardio, weight loss, better muscle tone, all on your own terms.

You can keep all your bad habits as long as you establish this one good one.

Here's another tip: you probably live in a city and when you walk outside, there's rubbish everywhere. Buy a box of latex gloves, and every odd morning when you go outside to go to the metro or to get a coffee, put on a glove, grab an old shopping bag and fill it with rubbish from the street as you go. People will look at you like a fool, but don't mind them. You don't have to pick up every ciggie butt, just the big things that stand out. When you get to your destination, slip off the glove into the bag, tie it up and put it in the bin. Again, no need to get obsessive about it, do this every odd day or so or when convenient (i.e. if it's horizontal rain outside, maybe not the day for this). You might not see any improvement, the filthy people in your neighborhood will shit up your street faster than you can blink. But that's not the point, the point is that you tried and maybe you made other people think about it too.

The reason these things work is because they are physical activities that take your mind off the problems in your life. They won't make you happy, but they will make a positive difference. No-one has to know you do this, there is no need to post online about it or tell your friends, just do it.
 
Ostatnio edytowane:
Seeing this thread hits me right in the feels. I myself am rather socially stunted, I was mostly ostracized during school and didn't really get the opportunity to socialize with anyone. And after graduation, there were nobody during my school years that I've ever been close to friends with and that I talk to nowadays. So it's just been endless loneliness, apart from some plushies to dampen it slightly.

I do have some kind of friendship with people over the internet, I feel safer and more comfortable talking over a screen but it's not fulfilling at all when you cannot see them in person, maybe greet them with a hug, experience all the body language cues and emotions that you can't get over text. I keep trying to find people who may live in my area on the internet, strike up a conversation, and hope it could turn into some fulfilling in-person friendship. Basically trying to bypass the uncomfortability of talking to strangers in person. But as you can probably tell, it's never led to anything yet.

I don't really have any advice. Just wanted to say that you are not alone in being alone.
 
You're writing increasingly worse every day, have you gone to a neurologist ever? you may have a brain tumor compressing your brain.

I'm 100% serious here.
 
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