Holden: coercive, exploitative, racist, fearful, poor of understanding, inappropriate, potentially violent, prejudiced, lacking in compassion, whining, logically bankrupt, emotionally stunted, etc., etc. Has never had a relationship and doesn't understand what the concept entails. Finds the following traits completely alien: engaging, caring, intelligent, humorous, open, compassionate, giving, sharing, self-assured, emotionally aware and open to intimacy, etc., etc. Such qualities are usually seen as positives and form the bedrock of many relationships. Holden has no knowledge of such things and thus both his understanding of and search for a "relationship" is doomed. I almost feel sorry for the fellow....