Stephanie Cianfriglia / Sapphire Crimson Claw / Yarrow Brown / the-ghost-fucker / transmascdruid / anarchoenby77 / darktwistedpussy / Druid of Endicot - Xe/xyr ghost-fucker, womb wizard, hand sanitizer sommelier, trans-boomer, violently abuses her elderly parents, has sexual fantasies about raping children

[Aunt Carol]

The $100 a month might be her mom trying to put the fear of God into her. Some older people are a bit unreasonable about things like interest or debt. I've noticed some old women in particular seem to see the act of carrying a balance on your credit card or paying $5 in interest a month as a moral crime akin to embezzling millions.

If Mom is lying to Stephanie about the interest+fees being $100, I don't think she's being unreasonable. This isn't a mom giving inaccurate life advice to her teenage daughter who will one day be an independent adult human. This is decades of experience with wrangling Stephanie and knowing what she'll pay attention to.

I'd just like to say how it makes me want to smack her remaining teeth out every time she says "overdrafted". I don't know if that's some burger phrasing I've never heard before,

Speaking as a burger, Stephanie's a dumbass who parrots things she doesn't understand. You're correct: "overdraft" is the noun; "overdrawn" is the adjective.

And either way she's wrong, because she's talking about a credit card, not a bank account. If you try to go over your credit limit, it gets denied, and that hasn't happened. Stephanie's just uncomfortable about not being able to pay off her entire balance this month.

Unless...


...could it be that Stephanie uses "credit card" and "debit card" interchangeably? Or does "I literally don't have a debit card anymore because my mom is so scared of me being scammed and overdrafted" refer to a previous debacle, and now she's about to lose her credit card?

 

[OrSoHelpMe]

Maybe Mom took the debit card to curb the spending addiction but didn’t know about the credit card, so now she has a $700 bill she’s panicking about because Mom doesn’t know she just kept spending.

Not only was she a social worker, she was a very successful diagnostician. 80% success rate, if I’m not mistaken.

She could totally use her degree to get a job training AI, even earn some money towards her spending debt, and still have all the bathroom meltdowns she needs. Would she though? Nah, that would cut into her fake drug taking, spending, slapfighting. Maybe her $30 rent would go back up. You can’t work from home AND put LSD in your eyes at the same time.

 

[S.C.U.D.]

Guys I just had a terrible thought: what if Staph's addiction counselor cures her social media addiction and the milk dries up?

Ha ha just kidding, we all know this counselor won't do shit if she ever gets one, she'll remain the same old Staph we know and love.

 

[Pee Your Pants]

Her bio mom was a crack addict, so her possibly inherited addictive personality could be worse.

We are truly entering a new era: Tard wrangled, better money management (maybe a lack of bougie drinks will make her lose weight?), a different type of counsellor who might slap some sense into her, and a rebrand as an addict. I couldn't have predicted all that, and I can't foresee if anything will truly make her change her ways, but I can predict a self indulgent and pretentious blog post about it very soon.

 

[Polexia Aphrodisia]

Her mom took her debit card away because she kept getting scammed and buying more than she could afford, but then gave her a fucking credit card instead. Should have been the other way around.

This proves that she cannot be trusted to live alone. $700 on sodies and crunchy bars and fake drugs and scams and tat. You know not a penny of that went to quality cat food for Siggy, who's probably subsisting on Meow Mix ($5 for 3lbs). And Staph still wants an overbred cat that's going to develop skeletal problems that she'd never think to take the cat to a vet for.

She needs to be in a group home that will give her structure and force her to do chores and participate meaningfully in meatspace.

 

[brooky]

"Someone who can help disabled people with their bills."

She thinks they'll just pay it off for her. She's not going to be happy to be given worksheets about snowball vs avalanche approach etc.

 

[Aunt Carol]

and a rebrand as an addict.

Oh man I hope she goes to an IRL 12-step meeting.

 

[BoobWhiskers]

Oh man I hope she goes to an IRL 12-step meeting.

Ma'am, I mean sir, thank you for telling us about the uh, ancient wisdom given to you by the spirit of the parking lot dandelion but you're not supposed to show up to the these meetings while high...

 

[JanuaryViolet]

able to groom a whole group of teenagers and she earned a degree, sort of. I'm not saying either of those feats requires Machiavellian intelligence

Neither requires intelligence. The first just needs opportunity. The degree, though? That was just paid-for babysitting for a couple of years at what was undoubtedly a very noncompetitive school. All that required was regurgitating material that was in whatever material they put in front of her. There are, sadly, many ways to game certain degrees, especially when the family is paying full freight. In real ife she's so far up her own ass as to be completely useless.

 

[Autism Hunter D]

The milk drying up would be a net good, it would mean this retard cleaned her life up enough to not be worth it, I'll always approve of cows fixing themselves and integrating themselves into polite society to the absolute extent they can.

Steph will not do that however, she's too prideful, she won't take the advice of an addiction therapist, because addiction therapists don't baby people, they exist to turn your life around before you fuck it up forever, and Steph cannot handle that, she cannot handle critique, she cannot handle the idea of humbling herself enough to admit the extent of her issues or take advice as to how to fix them.

She's going to go to a few of these sessions, and then she's going to either quietly stop talking about them when she drops them, or she'll claim the therapist was XYZphobic and that she felt 'unsafe' with them so she just can't do therapy. I'm not willing to bet on a full blown anti-psych arc yet, but I wouldn't be surprised if she starts parroting a little bit of the rhetoric as an excuse.

That's all conspiracy theories however, who the fuck knows with Steph, she always manages to blow me away by finding some new way to fuck things up I hadn't even managed to dream up.

 

[BoobWhiskers]

Steph will not do that however, she's too prideful, she won't take the advice of an addiction therapist, because addiction therapists don't baby people, they exist to turn your life around before you fuck it up forever, and Steph cannot handle that, she cannot handle critique, she cannot handle the idea of humbling herself enough to admit the extent of her issues or take advice as to how to fix them.

That's kind of what I was thinking; if Stapphy were to go to an addiction counselor (she won't), it would be a VERY different experience than her current checked-out semi-retiree. I would imagine someone who works with addicts kind of specializes in having to constantly reinforce 'no that's a retarded decision don't do that', and Stapphy's average life choices definitely qualify for that advice.

 

[Pee Your Pants]

Alt text: A nonbinary transmasc person wearing a bucket hat decorated with mushrooms, brightly colored sunglasses, and a rainbow lanyard. They are standing outside under the shade of a maple tree.

Nana had a nice outing to see a locomotive.

Unfortunate caption to the thumbnail of her hulking shadow. The video is worth a watch for her yelling 'HOLY SHIT' at a train.
A load of Americans getting excited over a train tickles me as a Britbong It's very wholesome..


Fingers crossed for some good pictures of her behind a sad pride stall. I wonder if she will shift any of the t-shirts she made?

You might have noticed her new pfp. It's absolutely vile.

Hairy cleavage . Of course she changed her Mastodon, and it's not much better.


Foul.

Some content from the last few days that was lost in the recent news:

I would love for Staph to get a new therapist who questions her beliefs, rather than enables them. Like someone said, any challenging from another therapist would make her quit seeing that therapist.


Just say it's a Dahmer thirst subreddit.

How's that dental GFM going?

I thought so.


'I'm sorry for your loss' would have been enough.


She's not doing a great job of being likeable.

ETA: Still ebegging.

Although I'm trying to find any kind of benefits to make things easier, the fact remains that I'm still pretty fucked, financially. Either donate to my ko-fi, cashapp, or PayPal for my credit card bill, or to my chuffed for my dental work.

Not a single 'please' or 'thank you.'

But there's a 'please' when asking to no boolie.

 

[OrSoHelpMe]

That’s an interesting take from Steph that no matter how bad a person is, if they are disabled and trans you have to get over that and give money because disabled people and trans people have gone through hell this year.

Can any crime be forgiven for being part of whichever community is having a hard time this year?

 

[it's pronounced gif]

This picture with this caption gives off "waiting to ride Heaven's Gate's shortbus"

 

[AfghanBlue]

Oh man I hope she goes to an IRL 12-step meeting.

Overworked drug counsellor rushing through the caseload on autopilot and we get a The Gang* Get On Methadone arc.

*(Staph & the groovy ghosts, that is. Not her usual too slow to run away, old age pensioners crew.
There they are at pride!

 

[Din Djarin]

Never thought I'd say this in my life but I am jealous of him getting to see Big Boy... But nothing else. Ever again.

 

[Pee Your Pants]

I can predict a self indulgent and pretentious blog post about it very soon.

Of course.


Love the sad wilted plant thumbnail.

Spoiler: Text

I do have a message from Loki to deliver, but before getting to that, I must mention another hard lesson I’m learning.

Baba Yaga likes to teach me things with a good measure of tough love. This time, it’s about how I have ignored my compulsive spending habits for far too long. I have lost my privileges of having my own debit card until I can pay off a hefty bill and afford my dentistry. But in a way, despite involving a painful confrontation between myself and my family, I’m grateful it’s happening because I will gain both a case manager from OPWDD and a new therapist. I would appreciate some help if you are willing and able to, so please check out my BlueSky for my mutual aid information.

Now, onto a word from Loki.

My dear ones, it pains me to tell you this news, but you must be aware of it. The inability of your leaders to act– and, in some cases, to refuse to address the issue at all– is leading you to ruin. If the so-called Atlantic Meridional Overturning Circulation truly does collapse, we will have arrived at Fimbulvetr. I must implore you to do something, anything, to save the life of Jörd. You may find my words too dramatic, but they are the truth, and must be heeded, lest you go extinct. The oppressive heat will destroy your farms. The rising oceans will disrupt your coastline communities. Diseases will be rampant, as will hurricanes. And your artificial intelligence may very well spell out your doom. I am not exaggerating when I suggest that your species is in dire straits. You must heed my warnings now more than ever before. Do not abandon hope, however. Your collective outrage will be what saves you. Do not become complacent. You must demand your leaders reverse course on their destructive actions. Do not allow the pestilence gripping part of your nation to spread. Do not allow polluting technologies to be made manifest. Your world must not be made forfeit so that idiot kings may stroke their egos. You must listen to me, now more than ever before. Allow for change. Fight for it. Drag out your barbarous politicians by the feet if need be. I will continue waging chaos upon your society until you are ready to act.

 

[BoobWhiskers]

HER PARENTS CONFISCATED HER CARD LMAO

So that's basically confirmed that her parents have a guardianship OR the account is in their names and they just let her use it, then, banks are incredibly obstinate about who they let handle affairs on an account. Unless they just physically took her card and she won't go around that to get a new one. That also suggests that they're the ones who receive and manage her tardbucks.

 

[OrSoHelpMe]

Steph is so lucky she has such great parents. She was able to get a Masters, looking at how she’s faring now, it must have taken an immense amount of support and money from her parents in order for this Steph to have gotten two degrees, no matter what the quality of the school.

Reminds me a bit of Amanda Baggs, complete with LSD.

When she went into the post degree world and drank hand sanitizer because she couldn’t handle her feelings when her boss reprimanded her, her parents got her on disability, a $30 apartment, a cat, came by to clean and do the litterbox, buy her groceries.

They gave her a chance to do something from her supported little space and she rang up $700 in spending debt, spends her time getting “high(?),” having sex with ghosts, telling people what Loki has to say, growing questionable shrooms and posting them online, and begging the internet to donate even more money to her so she doesn’t feel uncomfortable.

So they take away her card, hook her up with OPWDD, probably because they can’t any more, but also because they want to make sure she’s supported enough to be ok when they’re gone, make sure she can access therapy, force her to save for dental work instead before she can get her card back, so she doesn’t become one of those poor people with bad teeth that she fears. And she still asks the internet to pay for it.

She makes her parents out to be abusive monsters but they obviously love her and want to make sure she doesn’t suffer in this world. Some with kids in Steph’s position wouldn’t do as much bailing out, protecting. They didn’t leave her to fail and fall apart. I feel so bad for her parents.

 

[Bunny at Law]

That's why she's been frequently talking about meeting with a supported decision making facilitator. Mama and Papa Cianfriglia have obviously begun the process to put in place handlers who will take care of her and their estate, and make sure she doesn't wind up on the streets when they're gone. It's a less restrictive version of conservatorship that's considered a more ethical alternative as the sped retains all legal and civil rights, and there is a pilot project for this in NY (SDMNY).

Here’s the first time we got substantial information on the supportive decision making

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Staph is finally getting a tard wrangler.

Fucking called it lol.

By OPPWD, she means New York's Office of People with Developmental Disabilities (to save everyone a google). I wonder what developmental disability will qualify her for this service. Will it be the late-diagnosed autism, or is it some long-documented crack baby-related diagnosis?

The addiction counselor thing is lol, except that I guess they might still manage to provide more competent therapy than her current therapist. An addiction counselor is likely a lot less interested in self-serving excuses than hippie woowoo grandma therapist.

Her poor mom, though, getting desperate enough to reach out to OPPWD. Either her parents are putting their feet down about helping her with this particular debt, or they don't have the spare funds to address it themselves. They must feel desperate and at a loss. I still wonder what happened to that supportive decision-maker thing, which seems to have fallen off her radar long ago (though the program still exists).

I'm not actually going to critique Staph hooking up with a wrangler (though I'll laugh-- critiquing and laughing are distinct activities). She needs a wrangler, and she's been in need of one. She's simply not managing on her own: dental issues, spending issues, weight gain issues, issues with locking yourself in the bathroom and screaming because the neighbor who keeps scamming you won't leave . . . that's not what "managing" looks like.

Poor Frigs.

to qualify for OPWDD, you have to prove you had a disability before age 22. She’s said before she had delays that qualified her for OT and PT as a kid, and I suspect based on how she’s talked about her physical disabilities that she had global developmental delays (perhaps caused by FASD, but it’s easier for providers to give independent diagnoses for the individual components of FAS because that’s an easier pill for people to swallow). This would qualify her for OPWDD and since she went to public school, they would have pushed for her to get connected with them before graduation because it’s so difficult to become approved after age 22.

According to the website, supported decision making is when a person picks people in their life to help them make decisions (rather than having someone assigned to do so, which doesn’t seem to be an option). Her parents are definitely her supports, but she’s clearly not using them for ‘smaller’ decisions like impulse purchases. Their monthly budgeting meetings are probably the most clear example of her parents trying to fill their role.

OPWDD is a bit complicated for people like Staph, who are high functioning enough that they don’t need to live in supervised settings or attend day habilitation, but low functioning enough that they struggle to meet more complex ADLs or self-protect. Her best bet is to apply for Self-Direction and see if she can get into an apartment for people with disabilities that has oversight/supports within the building.

I hope Mama Frig is able to get support from Staph’s care manager at OPWDD, I can’t imagine how worried she must be about her kid’s future. Unfortunately, it doesn’t seem like Staph can get out of her own way.
I’ve been helping a family member reconnect with OPWDD for the last 3 years and holy red tape.