One of the earliest things that kept bothering me and caused me to snap out of poonery was inherent inconsistency of ideas about sexual behavior that just scream "sexism" and point exclusively at the psychological issue.
There's no coherent reason for someone who is not able to penetrate to be wanting to penetrate. All of the data circulating in transmed circles was junk science. It is virtually the same as being "species dysphoric." We're just conditioned to see it as less crazy these days for multiple variety of reasons, from the fact that genetically we're closer to the opposite sex than to, let's say, a bird, to transgenderism being more prevalent and normalized in general. But fundamentally, it's the same thing: there's no reason other than a mental illness to be upset about something that isn't a disorder.
Sexual roles are at most social performance. Even if they happen behind closed doors. Almost pure psychology is at the play here. The troon assuming bottom position that supposedly "aligns" with his gender identity only means that a man thinks that getting fucked in the ass is similar to being vaginally penetrated. It's not, it's a delusion, as there's barely any coherent reason for someone to be sexually gratified by this other than just having a very specific fetish. It also doesn't line up with gay men with no gender dysphoria who assume exclusively bottom positions.
NOBODY fucking needs you as a top if you don't have a penis.
Stone butches exist for decades, as well as women who larped as men, made up a story that they can't have sex normal way, and still got girlfriends. Many SSA women in general seem to be craving dominant women as well, reardless of their gender presentation.
It's also a completely backwards logic, love doesn't work like that and sex isn't the most important thing in the life. It's fine to be upset about not having something one wants (note, "wants", not "needs"), but obsessing over it indicates a deep mental/spiritual issue that should be addressed accordingly. I know I've been christpilling a lot outside of the containment thread a lot, but the thing about the fallen world is that we're bound by our own empty desires that drain us all the time. Said desires may sound vaguely sane on paper, especially depending on who you ask when it comes to trans people, but ultimately they are idols based on psychological traps that may not even be rational. Given the example above, like I said, there are people who actively want dominant females. So the problem here isn't that "nobody is out there", it's something else, but the mind fixates on this idea nonetheless. Hence why probably you were compared to an incel, broadly speaking, the incel psychology is much more prevalent in our every day lives, we just don't notice it because it's normalized or seen as an aspiration rather than spiritual poverty. So the focus is shifted to extreme cases of extremely specific desires, such as incels. But realistically speaking, people who think they will never be happy if they won't move to a specific country or won't get a very specific recognition in skills they're not good at, and so on and so forth, are not that different from incels.
people who live in fantasies never end up well
Pure skill issue tbh
