I agree, I've watched 4 family members die to drinking, either directly or indirectly, and a few to other substance abuses+booze.
A common thread is that they all joke about how bad drinking is and how it'll ruin their body and lives, and they do it, and it ruins their body and lives, and then they mourn in absolute and total abject despair at doing so, I understand its a hard (almost completely fucking impossible) addiction to break, but damn does it feel hard to feel bad.. the handwaiving and jokes years before, and then the complete and total 100% saturated misery near the "end" is just soul crushing to deal with multiple times with multiple family members.
I have never, ever had a single drink in my life because of it, and people make fun of me for it, like I didn't see the majority of my family I interact with (Mom, Dad, Uncle and 3 cousins) die to it, which people who try and get me to drink just handwaive away.