Hagrid the Hottie: this is such a blatantly obvious wank fantasy that I wasn't sure whether or not to post it, but I like to post them anyway if just so you can get a glimpse into the mind of the men who bristle at the notion that they can't work in the lingerie department and advise young girls on what underwear suits them best. To summarize: a man claims to be sexually harassed everywhere he goes due to being a fantastically stacked "muscle mommy," claiming that despite standing at 6 feet tall and 240lbs that men give him wide berth out of respect for his
femininity. He specifies that he's autistic in this post, but trust me, everyone, he does
not need to.
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Let’s start at the beginning…
I was chatting with an older lady who lives near me. We bumped into each other in the doctor’s office.
She was a bit upset that I don’t always say hello, so I explained that because I’m autistic, I often wear headphones just to stay grounded and focused, And I told her that "I promise I would never ignore you!". She took that in her stride.
Then
she looks at me and says, “Look, just because you’re pretty, don’t think I’ll let you off next time you ignore me!”
Bonus points here because
I’m a 45-year-old white woman, and she was an older Black Jamaican woman. That smile, that accent, that compliment… 150% win.
Next up…
I was talking to the receptionist at the same doctor’s office. We’ve built a pretty solid bond over the last year or three, and I’ve started to think of her as a friend. Whenever I walk in she instantly smiles a broad and genuine smile. She’s genuinely curious about trans issues and always asks questions because she wants to learn. I make sure to remind her that I can only speak for myself, not for every trans person, though. We even agreed to grab coffee this week so I can talk her through what I’m going through, in my own words.
Anyway… the topic of physical changes came up. We talked about periods, emotions, skin, the whole mix. Then I mentioned my bad back. She forgot herself for a moment and said, verbatim:
“It’s probably because you have an impressive rack!”
There was a pause when she caught the slang… and then,
“I mean, you’ve had noticeable chest growth over the last few years.”
I smiled and told her I’m a 38DD/E, but the family average is G/H. She wasn’t sure how to respond and just said, “… nice.”
(A life full of trauma and autism means I’m usually blind to compliments. I never really got them before. So I’m still learning how to process that.)
Finally…
I’m a big woman... 6’, about 240 lbs, muscle-momma energy, and I was walking down a busy road at night on my own. (Yes, yes, terrible idea, I know.)
The path got narrow, and I saw a shadow behind me moving fast.
I turned around and found myself looking slightly upward into the face of a much bigger fish in the pond. A few inches taller than me, broader arms, probably a builder, and clearly strong.
He looked me in the eyes… and then almost immediately looked down and slowed his pace. He put distance between us. I moved aside so he could pass, and he did... but first he backed off, waited for a break in traffic, and walked into the road to give me a wide berth.
This dude, who absolutely could’ve folded me like laundry, chose instead to avoid my eyes and literally walk in traffic to not intimidate me.
And don’t get me wrong...
this shouldn’t be remarkable. It shouldn’t have to happen at all. But… no man would do that for another guy.
So I think… I think I made it? I think people see me for who I really am... finally.
Look... Transition is slow and messy and terrifying and beautiful. But every now and
then you get these little moments... these tiny, ridiculous, unexpected affirmations that quietly whisper, “You’re not pretending. You’re becoming.”
If you’re still in the thick of it, or if you’re scared you’ll never be seen: hold on. Sometimes the world recognizes you long before you learn to recognize yourself. And those moments are worth everything.
TiF FAFO: after going to the effort to make sure her student portal lists her as male, a FTM is unsettled to learn that this means she'll be rooming with biological males during her stay, which seems to be a bit of a record-scratch moment for her - especially as their profiles imply them to be regular guys who like things such as fishing and business. The housing department is rather disinterested in her concerns, but even with common sense knocking loudly at the door,
she refuses to listen to her parents who suggest she try to room with women instead.
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Hey, i’ve never made a post to reddit and I’m on mobile so sorry if that’s annoying.
Just jumping into it, I’m going to be starting my freshman year of college this upcoming fall. I will also be starting T in late january (yay!).
My gender is listed as male in the student portal, so when I applied for housing, my roommate options were only cis men. I live in the south and I am going to college in the south, so all of their profiles looked something like “I like fishing and i’m majoring in business.”
I don’t judge people based on their interests,
but i’m being very cautious because I really don’t want to end up in a scenario where I’m rooming with someone ignorant or bigoted. As of now,
I don’t pass that well and I don’t know how well I am going to pass by August.
I emailed the housing department asking if I could find any other queer or trans students to room with, and this was their response: “
We do not have gender inclusive housing on campus, and legally, we have to assign students based on the gender that is listed in our system (male, in your case).” They then went on to say that “I did notice that you shared some of this same information in your application, and we will make a note of it on our end, too. If you don't set up your own roommate group, but let us do that for you, we would take all of that information into consideration as we make assignments.”
This response didn’t give me much hope, to be honest. And while I appreciate what effort they might put in to making sure I am comfortable,
they really have no way of knowing that the people I am matched with are allies. I guess i’m really nervous because
I am used to being perceived as female by the general public, and I know i’m gonna get clocked fast. I have a cis male friend going to the same college, but frankly I do not think we would make a good match as roommates. They don’t make roommates official until March, so I guess I have time to figure it out, but i’m still worried. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Upon reading this, I had to pour one out for
@Chandelier who knows all too well about the absolute infestation of TiFs in fandoms (especially Arcane). But in a shocking display of awareness, the doodz in the comments clap back at OP and suggest that the most frequent offenders of pooner porn are other TiFs, which leads many of them to suggest that OP has some internalized transphobia to work through. I love when they eat their own!
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I(FTM) can't stop seeing everyone everywhere in fandom spaces taking a cis male character and giving them (in fan art) top surgery scars and rambling about wanting his "boy-p*ssy." and
especially common when the character is "feminine" or a "twink". a good example of this is Viktor from arcane. and i really think people need to talk about this more. this ideology that every "twink"ish male character needs to be trans is inherently transphobic. it re-iterates transphobic ideologies that all trans men are "femboys", "feminine", "twinks", etc. showing that these people think that trans men can never disconnect from their "woman side." and it disgusts me so badly.
can someone please tell me they've seen this happening in fandoms too?
Apparently there's been leaks of the eternally-gestating GTA 6 in which you can attend a Pride parade simply to mow down the people present as is standard in GTA games, but this tranny is
not having it, no ma'am! I like when someone in the comments says "
Remember in rdr2 people feeding women's rights protesters to alligators?" and another replies with "
Atleast the game rewards you for attacking klan members, eugenics supporters and bigots in general"; almost makes me want to buy the game just to show the Liliths and Alices what-for. (Key word: almost. Nobody has enough kidneys to buy Rockstar games off-the-shelf in
this economy.)
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Firstly, I don't want to fucking hear that it's 'just a game' PLEASE! If you're going to say that then don't bother commenting!!
So Rockstar feels it would be in their best interest to profit from every transphobe & homophobe across the globe to increase their sales for GTA 6. Pride Parades will be in the open world for anyone to kill them all at will. They are literally allowing all these hateful people to excercise their hatred for us even more. People that never even played videogames will buy the game JUST TO SHOOT/BLOWUP PRIDE PARADES.
Imagine the hatemail we're gonna receive of someone sending us a gameclip where they molotov a trans woman in the game? Yeah, that's not fucking ok and I don't care if it's just a fucking game!
What happend to Red Dead 2 where you'd get maximum level honor if you find a KKK meeting and kill all of them? Oh let me guess, that was too woke for them.
What is everyone else's thoughts on this?? Hopefully, there will be so many explosions at these 'parades' that they will crash the servers and they will have no choice but to take them out of the game
Magic Fool Bus: this li'l TiF - Trans-Identified (Ms.) Frizzle - makes a hobby of trying to take chances, make mistakes and get messy with transphobes online in order to promote education and understanding. Just kidding! She likes to troll the shit out of people who haven't drank the Kool-Aid by showing off hokey articles and repeating Tumblr mantras. I would love to see her thoughts on Matt Walsh's "What is a Woman?" if she ever has the time to weigh in, but I'm sure she has a packed schedule with all that her valiant whiteknighting of her Lilithian overlords.
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I have no clue if this is relevant and will delete it if asked to.
I'm genderqueer but female presenting in most cases. When I see transphobes being shitty under a post,
I like to first correct the pronouns and ask what makes said person, not who they are. When they say "it's biology," I hit them with the credible source on human biology. They do not like that.
Another good way is playing dumb until they try to argue genitals, then you hit em with the "wow, so you care that much about what's in someone's pants? Pervert. "
Another way is by sharing the fun facts on strict binary gender being a relatively new concept brought on by colonialism. (Real fact, btw)
Edit:
transphobes also love to reduce women down to fetus incubators. Y'know blantent misogyny. They don't like when you point that out.
It's a lot of fun. I've been called all kinds of slurs, mainly inaccurate ones. But man, they tend to twist the narrative so far outwards that it's not even related anymore. These people just love to embarrass themselves on main for being creeps and never seem to have an actual argument.
I do my best to offer articles and sources to people so concerned about biology and never resort to name calling or adhomenom for this stuff. I do my best to remain civil.
Again will delete of this is the wrong place to post, I just wanted to share that I'm doing my part in trying to educate bigots.
A handmaiden struggles with calling out a pig in lipstick for his chauvinistic oinking, but though her instincts tell her to turn him into bacon, she still seeks out the pig pen for advice on how she should properly worship his hooves. The animal farm, surprisingly, is quite benevolent to her, but the resounding advice of "
call [her] out like you would any other woman" is remarkably ignorant to the fact that
trannies fucking hate that from anyone, but
especially from handmaidens. But sure, go ahead, let her get peaked. The more of us, the merrier!
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I was with a trans woman a long while ago and have had this on my mind since mainly since I just have yet to really know how to feel. I've tried to avoid thinking about it but I think I need to ask. I'm worried I'm being a bigot here.
When is it okay to check some jokes? Is it even okay? It isn't common with many trans women I have met at all so I never really was in this situation before. But
she made a lot of sexist jokes that I would feel uncomfortable with any woman making repeatedly. Once in a while? Fine.
But it was like insulting vaginas kind of often, insulting my abilities through jokes because I am a woman and eventually I tried to rope her into the jokes like "okay maybe we're making fun of stereotypes here" but it rarely landed and she tended to only make those jokes with other women as the target and not herself. She tended to other herself only for sexist jokes (
ie she was a woman until those sexist jokes in which case she like somewhat distanced herself from it?). And
that made me hesitant when she made jokes about violence towards me or other women. Like
I also don't like that from cis women but I also had no idea how she saw her own gender at that point and I feel awful but it made me hesitant around her. And I didn't and still don't know how to feel about it.
I wanted to tell her to cool it but I worried it wasn't my place. What if I was only feeling uncomfortable because I see her as male subconsciously? I really have no idea. I just want to know how to navigate this better in the future.
It feels like a Catch 22: if I check someone, it might be invalidating but if I don't check them, I'm treating them differently than I would a cis woman. Is it okay for me to correct these sorts of things?
Or should I save that for women who have the experience of both transitioning and sexism and it's not really my place?
Kissing the homies goodnight: hey fellas, is it normal for a chick who pretends she's a guy and a guy who pretends he's not straight to get a little romantic? OP would like to know, as she has no basis for what the average male friendship looks like; instead, she describes something right out of a YA romance novel, down to the ridiculous little "good morning" texts.
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Until this year's summer, I haven't had any cis male friends so idk how male friendships look like? I've met a man
as you can guess and we've been flirting and stuff, both on emotional and sexual aspect but like everytime he mentions his other (male) friend I wonder if he does the same with him..? Not necessarily out of jealously, but rather
I'd prefer not to feel special if it's just .. y'know, what men tend to do among each other.
Like is it normal? Where is even the line for it to be considered "normal"? By normal I mean just regular jokes/teasing between male friends? I guess he did say he's flirting with me but I have no idea if that's something dudes just do.
And I'll give some examples:
sending "us" vids/gifs, saying gn and sometimes gm, being often affectionate and/or praising me (in a serious manner, as he stated he is not joking with those), or more sexual stuff and so on.
I'm bad at reading hints or whatever so that's why I thought I'd ask someone and I'd rather not speak about him with anyone I know.
And no, we're both not straight as said in the title but y'know what i mean.
Lastly, STDs have become so normalized that this troon is upset that he missed out on the most fun way to get them: at college parties with strangers you'll never meet again. Instead, he did the sensible thing by not trying to invent SuperMonkeyAIDSpox and went to engineering school, and now he laments all of the late night mistakes that've been left unmade. Ah, yes, youth - the time of catching criminal charges that follow you the rest of your life, STDs that can never be cured, only managed, and numerous days completely blacked out due to drinking them into a stupor! Such an envious life to lead!
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College is supposed to be when you learn about yourself and reinvent yourself and make stupid mistakes and get an STD and party. I should have learned back then that I want to wear huge hoop earrings and tights and a frilly skirt and mascara. Nobody would even give a fuck. Nobody knew me.
College people all do stupid shit. Who cares.
I just wasted my time coasting through engineering school and playing video games and being awkward at the like 2 parties I managed to show up at. Dancing was stupid because that's what the friends I hung around with thought. I didn't even know what I wanted but the people I surrounded myself with seemed to. And it was fine. Just fine.
Now I'm too fucking old for this shit and I finally know that I want to be pretty and hang out with girls and get drunk and dance until the morning but I'm paralyzed and can't do anything because
I have a career and people know me and nobody just changes their whole fucking personality at my age, that would just be fucked up and weird.
It's too late and I missed out and there are no do-overs and just fuck all of this honestly.
It's gender affirmation and validation for both of you, gurl. 
