Looking freshly-ish showered. The hair fibers are gone and dayum… I’ll say again, just shave it all off gorl.
Coughing, heavy breathing, and sniffling into the camera as she tries to adjust the stand.
“I’ve waited like a million hours it feels like, just trying to start my live, and I can’t stop crying. It’s too early for this shit” long, teary pause. “Nothing’s wrong, just another day of realizing that I’m completely and utterly alone. I can’t sleep, I can hardly eat (doubt), I don’t know if I’ve like, actually ever… felt this bad in my entire life.” She says something about how she doesn’t think she’s ever known what it feels like to “really be alone”.
“It’s fucking awful. I’m such a mess.” Tracy tells her to go visit her mom or aunt. “No… maybe Tracy, they don’t live in the same town. Which I should have moved somewhere in Cornwall, but I thought that would be depressing because that would probably feel a million times like moving backwards.
People are telling her to get out of the house and go somewhere.“ And go where? I don’t enjoy doing anything? Going to sit at a cafe by myself??? I don’t like any… I don’t give a shit about anything. I don’t deserve her (the cat) either.”
“I can’t stand the quiet, like I can’t sleep, like I wake up in a panic like I’m suffocating… Hey Jessica, ready-set-rebeeze.”
“Oh uh, my mom… no.. she can’t come get me today.”
“Extreme grief…?”
“Yeah… I am on medication. Like not every problem in life is like, meds or therapy, ya know? It’s just… I’m just feeling sorry for myself, I guess. I’m just letting my stupid hair dry” As she combs it.
“He’ll answer me like, inadmittedly (she means intermittently lol). And I know, and I know, he doesn’t owe me anything, we’re not technically married. But the thing is, is, like, so then how do you go from being.. Like are you a fucking liar then? Like how do you go from being super lovey-dovey ‘I love you you’re my soulmate’ this and that bullshit… to me like… seeing me like this… and you DON’T EVEN CARE? Like? He probably thinks this is all drama like, me being up set. Like umm, I think it's pretty normal. And I hate more than anything that I’m, I’m like, hurt? Or maybe he was just smart about it. Or maybe his dad was smart. He knows he’s gonna be going through a depression where he’s like, ultra, ultra vulnerable. Because the night before his dad flew in, like I flew out… he was home alone (-legend-) that night and he messaged me 'it feels like there’s no light in the house without you… it’s awful, I’m so lonely.’ Then the next day, his dad comes in and he doesn’t, he basically… that’s where the conversation goes downhill.
And he's like ‘don’t bring my family into it. They have nothing to do with it. They have no influence’. Really, just be honest with me. I hate dishonest people.”
“What I want in life…? I don’t know” she whispers tearily.
“It’s not just about finding another man or woman. It’s just like, sure there’s millions of people, but those people are not you. What about all that time we spent together, having chemistry? And I know trolls and haters they’re all like, ‘oh see, it’s never real’. Like, it makes me wonder cause like, honestly…? You’re so fucking heartless, you know? He told me he was gonna be single forever, just yesterday. Maybe I am grieving the person I thought like…”
“It’s just uhm… really hard.”
Kitten beeze interlude. Kitten is running around being adorable in the background. Chantal stops to manhandle the kitten and give her kisses.
“You think he’s talking to someone else? What?? Like, why doesn’t he just admit it then!? Like, why!? Just say it! Just say it then! And I’ll leave you alone! Like why be cruel, and like, I hate that? Why string me along, just tell me to fuck off. I would rather than than be like, vague. And I miss Julia! I miss her a lot. I miss Sasa, like I miss that family, sense of family that I was getting. He's, I’m not giving him money. He’s not getting money from me. Are you kidding? But no, he hasn’t asked me for money… so…”
“No, I think some of his family probably doesn’t want him with me at all. Some of his family is very nice, and loving towards me. Mostly in Syria. But, I don’t know how his dad feels. He was really nice. Always nice to me but I don’t talk to him much like… like if I was in his dad’s shoes. Yeah, I’d probably want me son to have children… or whatever. OR I probably wouldn’t even give a fuck, honestly. Live how you want to live. I mean, you have other kids that are having kids. How many kids do you need to have, like…? Every single person in your family has to have kids for you to be happy?” (Clearly she is refusing to understand that Salad is the only one who can pass on the family name, super important in his and his dad’s culture. Doesn’t matter if a bunch of his daughters are having kids, he wants his ONLY SON to have a kid, dummy.)
“Like, he always says, ‘it’s not the kids, it’s not marriage, I wanna be single forever’ every time I talk to him.” (And you seriously believe him?)
“I mean, I miss that like, every day comfort, like, cuddling, watching movies, someone to confer over dinner with. Just that stupid shit…. ‘Look what the cat’s doing’, like. Something you can do with a hijab or not, is love someone.”
“Did I choose this…? Yeah, I feel like I did. I don’t know if I made a mistake or not… it’s too early to tell. Like, the way I’m feeling, like, feeling like shit. Like pure… shitcicle. No… he hasn’t asked me to come back."
“Do not laugh at my hair fibers head… heh heh heh”
“I mean, I really, really don’t know why you would be with a western woman, especially Foodie Beauty. Like you’ve known, you’ve seen, he’s never like, complained about that stuff, about my past and stuff, but my present wasn’t that great either, right? It's like why am I blaming myself for everything, like I’m like, the only person to make a mistake. Like I feel like all of this problem, is my like- because of me.”
“You left him. Yeah but he’s supposed to like, fight for me back, duh… Like, what what do you think? What do you expect, duh?” Singtalks “don’t be an idiot please.”
Getting a little hamhock-y there, eh? Amberlynn would be proud.
The zip hoodie is apparently too tight for her, she comments about it while zipping it up.
“It’s so shocking because it’s like, YOU were just sooooo lovey-dovey. How do they do that? Like how? One minute: I love you. One minute: I wish you the best. I don’t get it. I’m not like that . . . ‘God just move on with your life.’ I swear if I hear that. ‘Just move on’. How about you just eat a pile of crap? How about that? ‘Just move on with your life… just move on.’ Oh I’ll move on alright, I’ll move on and I’ll be so successful and happy. And YOU….” (never finishes the thought)
She’s now off camera, looking for the earrings she bought yesterday. “I bought some earrings yesterday, right guys?”
Starts singing Carrie Underwood’s “Before He Cheats”, and comments how she always hated that song, but it’s stuck in her head. (gee I wonder why…)
“I don’t know what I expect from Salah??? Uhm, how about acting like we were acting like we were married for 3 years. How about some respect and dignity. How about that? Would that be nice . . . he doesn’t like, he’ll go like… he’ll, message me a bit. And then it’ll be several hours and then he’ll message me… some- but not really like, answer anything I’m saying, ya know? And if you ever love somebody, how do you like to see them like this??? You know what I mean?
“Yeah I do feel like I deserve better. Like, I feel like, okay, I’ve said some pretty hurtful things to him when we fought, but he’s not an angel. He… likewise. You think I just say those things for no reason? Anyways, one day I’m going to have my shit together and all of the crummy people who I wasn’t good enough for when I was at my worst, you can eat crap when I’m at my best! And if that never happens then you can say ‘dodged a bullet’, but, whatever.”
Tells the chat to hold one and pauses the stream for a bit, then comes back. “No, I wasn’t texting him. And yeah, I would say a lot of the time women, they do end up getting called nuts, like, ‘oh she’s messaging him, she’s messaging him,’ well if they weren’t such inconsiderate pricks, and cared about your feelings, then maybe we wouldn’t have to look insane, ya know? Like, whatever, whatever. I’m not going down that road.”
“I don’t send money”
“No you don’t need a man for happiness. You don’t. But it’s no, it’s no secret, or else nobody would be with anywone, that being in love is a good thing. But I don’t know why I was dumb and thought that none of this, uhm, all of this could be done without any transition period. I thought I would just be here like, yay.”
“Cause like when I was in syria, yeah I did feel that way. I did feel kind of like I can’t wait to get out of here. But at the same time, like, it felt homey too, right? So… it’s just weird at first. So different. But you know, the more he is like this, the more angry I get. So maybe that’s a good thing . . . we both came to this agreement, I know, but then when it comes time to this actually happening, it’s just really sad. Am I going to find better than him??? No! I mean, my whole perception that there’s fairy tale romance is dead. Like, romance is dead. There’s no such thing.”
“I had some pretty bad meltdowns there. My mental health was bad… but… I’m not used to that environment. And even though, because I loved him, I, I went there. I don’t think too many people can say they can live there. Even him, sometimes, he doesn’t think… he doesn’t know if he can live there.
‘Oh, I cannot give you an answer right now because I want to see in a few months time… I hate- I hate seeing you high. And you know, you were almost nude on camera one day…’ (repeating what Salad said to her).
So, how is he leading me on for money??? I’m not giving him a penny. That’s your fault if you don’t believe that, I don’t know what to tell you.”
“He knew what I was like before I went to Kuwait. Was he just hoping I would change? And I feel like I did!”
“Sitting and crying and thinking about Salah is something I feel like is normal when you divorce, if you were sincere and love the person. If he’s not, it’s because he’s too busy right now. That’s what I mean. His dad was smart. He knew when to swoop in, right after I left, because when you’re alone, and you, you’ve just gone through a divorce you’re so vulnerable, and weak.”
“I am high and that, I know. But like, he has bad habits too. I’m not gonna air them. But he has bad things about him. And I, I would have quit. But it’s like being here alone, it’s so hard that I like, I just feel like the THC just helps me. It masks anything even though I know it’s not helping in the long run . . . I’m mad at how he’s handling it now. I’m just in disbelief because you’re disillusioned after spending 3 years with someone and you think they’re a certain. And they’re not. And you have to be pure evil, I don’t care what anyone says, to really, really have loved someone apparently for 3 years… to just seem them suffering and just like, ‘whatever my daddy’s here.’ And why wouldn’t he truly love me? Cause I’m fat? I’m a mess? So what? People can still love each other. Yeah, whatever, so that’s it. I’m just, I’m just so pissed off in a lot of ways cause like, the grief, it turns to anger, right?”
“I don’t even think he looks at his channel comments much. I said that I’m like ‘you let people just talk shit about me in your comments.’ ‘hurr show me one’, and there’s like several. I don’t care, I don’t even go look. I don’t give a shit. He’s not gonna, I know he’ll never be the type to just go lick the arses of haters, for some quick, uh clout and attention. He’s not desperate like amberlynn’s family member… you never know, but…”
A Beezer says something about him wanting her to be calm, healthy and not disrespecting herself was his way of loving her. She shrugs “maybe. He is more responsible than me, which must be hard for somebody like that.”
“‘You dodged a bullet.’ That’s all what his family’s probably saying to him. You dodged a bullet. Who’s to guarantee that he marries someone who’s not crazier??? Can happen.”
Says again that she’s not giving him any money, and that Salad has not asked her for any. Chat wants peetz to be her new cameraman, she says that peetz “yaks when he travels”.
Chantal starts talking about how Salad lost the drive to do any youtube over the course of their relationship. She says “it’s like, who cares about the haters at the end of the day, and your reputation? Who gives a shit? Honestly, who cares? Like it’s the interenet, like, you know? We could have made more money doing couples videos. It wasn’t like we were rich, but who knows if we kept working at it. It’s like it makes more sense to do that than to worry about what you’re going to do in Syria… I don’t know, like whatever.”
“No, I didn’t get him in legal trouble. The haters were trying to get us in legal trouble. I wasn’t in danger in Syria, not really.”
“Salah would get so mad when I would compliment peetz about anything friendship wise. It’s like well, who’s here for me now? Now you. You’re not here for me. You’re… you’re literally not even fucking thinking about me right now . . . I mean, he’s, he’s saying that the reason we’re- we’ve grown apart is our fighting was really bad lately, but it seemed like an excuse. I don’t know.”
“The only thing I really wish I could get is Julia, which maybe at some point. I don’t know.”
“I didn’t say it was all on Salah. I’m not blaming him. It’s the way he’s acting now is weird. That’s all. It makes me feel like, yes, like with the divorce papers behind my back. I feel like this was all intricately detailed and talked about with his family and it’s like, no, dude, I don’t know how the women do that, man. With every single family man up their ass and around the corner like. What the fuck, I would go nuts man, I’m sorry but.” She tells the chat to hold on and pauses the stream again.
She comes back. “I don’t know… he’s like, ‘I had to tell them about it because they have to be witnesses.’”
She reflects on how she wasn’t the most pious Muslim for him, or the most modest or devout. How she swore a lot.
She asks the chat if they think that it’s suspicious that his father arrived right away, right after she left. “A few days before I was to travel, Salah was like, ‘I’m gonna go on the madafa, I’m going to talk to my father on video.’ Which he did sometimes. He came back, ‘oh my father’s thinking of coming to syria at some point.’ I thought this would be like, in the future. Nope… as they say in Arabic ah latul (spelling sorry), right away. As soon as uh, I’m out of there. So either I’m like, are you getting remarried? But why like, wouldn’t he just tell me that, like why hide that from me if I’m not giving him anything. Like what’s the, what’s the purpose? It’s very sus. And it was like, right away. Why wouldn’t he tell me that?”
Some chatter said something about her pooping on the beds and vomiting everywhere. I couldn’t find the exact comment so maybe it got deleted. She gets defensive about it. “Ok, I didn’t purposefully poop on the bed… so you’re telling me that uhh, Arab Muslims don’t get sick? Like, I caught a flu from the food poisoning from there… It's not my fault. Like it’s like I was laying in the bed one day and thought, ‘oh, I'd like to shit the bed today.’”
“He’s changed since Syria-” (the stream lags and cuts off her sentence) “I’m sorry, but like you moved there and then one day were like ‘Oh, I like my traditional values.’ Ok, good for you. What about me??? Like I’m just shit now???”
At this point in the stream she just repeats a lot of what she’s already been talking about. How she wants him to just come out and say he doesn’t want to talk to her anymore or be in a relationship anymore. She goes back and forth with the chat a little bit. She’s losing steam and looking like the rage is over.
“All cheating stuff, we all got past all that crap and I decided to stay and move on. And he, you know, I would bring it up all the time and he was so fed up with it. (then you didn’t really get past it did you?) That’s another major thing he didn’t like. Drove him nuts. Just chatting with people? You mean setting up the dating apps just for friends??? Yeah right…”
Says that there’s definitely a part of her that’s just changed. She’s not going to go back to wearing red dressed and exposing herself. She’s not about that anymore. She also says that Salad never had sex with anybody (doubt), but that she believes there’s different forms of cheating. She also says that she calculated the amount of time he was gone for the lunch date with his “work friend” and the amount of time he had to drive, and she doesn’t think there would have been enough time for “peen connection”.
She ends the stream and says hopefully she’ll pop back up with something entertaining to do for the beezers.
