What stuff you went through on the internet because of being a woman?

[Bloo]

Other than what happened when I was a young teenager it hasn’t been *that* bad surprisingly. Most of the forums I used to post in had more female members or gay guys. I have had weird messages and the odd unsolicited dick pic on Facebook.

Thankfully what happened to me at 13/14 didn’t mess me up too badly, it could have been a lot worse. I knew what he was doing was wrong on some level and eventually blocked him.

 

[Arbiter]

My main internet experience was using imageboards. I never revealed I was a woman, and sometimes I had to lie that I was a man in certain posts or else it would invite the usual derailment. Because of this, I think I adopted a more male-coded way of presenting myself online. After many years, it got really tiring. Leaving 4chan for lolcow.farm eventually helped me be able to express myself more naturally and get over that mental block of doing or saying anything that would reveal I'm a woman. Still though, even now, I have a little nagging brain worm that tries to stop me from posting anything too "girly" or mentioning my sex, out of fear it will cause people to attack me for being an attentionwhore or something.

I have this surreal fucking memory of crying on my 12th birthday because I was “not a cute loli anymore”.

Being exposed to loli as an actual preteen girl is definitely something that effects you in a uniquely troubling way. I remember being a literal child who loved pedobear memes, which is so bizarre to look back on.

dms on deviantart asking what kind of bugs I wanted to step on

When we were 12 years old, my friend got a request on Deviantart to draw May from Pokémon stomping on bugs. She drew it not knowing it was fetish art. When she told me about the request and showed me the picture, I knew something about it was wrong, even though I didn't understand what exactly. Now I understand the reality that it was a grown man knowingly asking an obvious child to make him fetish art to jerk off to.

 

[General Patton]

Mostly older men trying to cyber sex with me when I was a teenage girl. One even told me I was fuckable and when I told him I was underage, he didn't care.

I got groomed online at 13 by a 22 year old guy. This was the early 2000’s. I met him on a forum and started talking to him on MSN. It was textbook sexual grooming. He never outright sent me any porn or nudes but it was still pretty bad. I learned about sex mainly from him, I was pretty sheltered.

He kept asking me to send selfies of myself to him and I did. I remember at the time thinking that I looked 9-10 in these photos and was worried he’d stop talking to me because I looked much younger than I was. He didn’t.

I had the same thing happened around the same time it happened to you. Except I was about 14. It was in the AOL days, and I talked to the guy for a very long time, at least it felt that way. The guy used to instantly message me pretty much every time I signed on. Sometimes I'd even go on hidden just to get away from it.

He used to ask me for photos but I didn't have a scanner. But he sent me his photo. I remember it was some old polaroid image of a guy wearing 1970s pants, so clearly the man who claimed to be 18 was actually some grown man when I think back on it.

Eventually I lied to him to get him to stop talking to me. This guy also wanted to meet me since we lived in the same state.

I'm so glad I didn't agree to or try to because clearly he would have either raped me or killed me.

 

[Jack O'Lantern]

I've always been assumed to be male due to my politics, posting style, interests and the avatars I usually choose. I find the scapegoating of women moronic and the toxicity towards mothers depressing, tbh. Misogynists disgust me and I generally don't engage with them any more. They will die alone. I won't.

 

[Jewish Cartman]

I have had numerous men, mainly on Reddit (figures), enter my DMs to strike up conversation and eventually ask to e-date me. I started mentioning, "Cashapp or Venmo?" right away, as I have decided the best course of action for dealing with DM crawlers, who eventually or automatically send unsolicited dick pics, is to demand they pay you for having to deal with their antics. They block you right away and are confounded by the experience.

 

[Bloo]

Mostly older men trying to cyber sex with me when I was a teenage girl. One even told me I was fuckable and when I told him I was underage, he didn't care.



I had the same thing happened around the same time it happened to you. Except I was about 14. It was in the AOL days, and I talked to the guy for a very long time, at least it felt that way. The guy used to instantly message me pretty much every time I signed on. Sometimes I'd even go on hidden just to get away from it.

He used to ask me for photos but I didn't have a scanner. But he sent me his photo. I remember it was some old polaroid image of a guy wearing 1970s pants, so clearly the man who claimed to be 18 was actually some grown man when I think back on it.

Eventually I lied to him to get him to stop talking to me. This guy also wanted to meet me since we lived in the same state.

I'm so glad I didn't agree to or try to because clearly he would have either raped me or killed me.

Sorry to hear, fren. My guy wanted to meet up too as we lived worryingly close. Thankfully I was too socially awkward and shy at the time to actually do it. When he sent me selfies of himself he looked like a creep too. I can’t remember exactly what he looked like except he had glasses. I had an instant ick reaction from the photo, though.

I don’t know what the final straw was for me but I eventually blocked him. The sex talks always made me uncomfortable but I kept talking to him regardless for whatever reason. I probably should have warned the forum’s admins about him and told my parents but didn’t.

 

[General Patton]

Sorry to hear, fren. My guy wanted to meet up too as we lived worryingly close. Thankfully I was too socially awkward and shy at the time to actually do it. When he sent me selfies of himself he looked like a creep too. I can’t remember exactly what he looked like except he had glasses. I had an instant ick reaction from the photo, though.

I don’t know what the final straw was for me but I eventually blocked him. The sex talks always made me uncomfortable but I kept talking to him regardless for whatever reason. I probably should have warned the forum’s admins about him and told my parents but didn’t.

Yeah, the guy was close enough by me as well. Creeps will be creeps. Your social awkwardness saved you in a way.

I hate how common it is for older men to creep on teenagers online.

 

[mold]

people just assume I'm a man

 

[Digital Thunder]

people just assume I'm a man

I should've amended this to my first post before the editing window closed, but even without hiding my sex people tend to assume I'm not only a man but MtF. Still don't entirely get it.

 

[General Patton]

I should've amended this to my first post before the editing window closed, but even without hiding my sex people tend to assume I'm not only a man but MtF. Still don't entirely get it.

Same with me too. It's annoying.

 

[mold]

anime avatar I can understand but norm?

 

[General Patton]

Believe it or not, Norm has fans.

 

[mold]

Believe it or not, Norm has fans.

I meant how is norm gonna make someone think you're a tranny

 

[General Patton]

I meant how is norm gonna make someone think you're a tranny

Nothing in my original comment had to do with that avatar.

 

[Lady Bizness]

Weirdo "doctor" send a bunch of us on the same baby bump sub asking for photos of our babies feet...saaar.

Had some bad interactions with trannies arguing with me that women are totally into some weird pervert thing.

When I was younger I enjoyed pretending to be a man pretending to be a girl to get free shit on things like WoW or crappy free MMOs. I usually didn't get the free shit because I was having way too much fun being weird and killing their boners.
*Munches on your cock like a cob of corn. Mmmm crunchy*

 

[controversial666]

I have had numerous men, mainly on Reddit (figures), enter my DMs to strike up conversation and eventually ask to e-date me. I started mentioning, "Cashapp or Venmo?" right away, as I have decided the best course of action for dealing with DM crawlers, who eventually or automatically send unsolicited dick pics, is to demand they pay you for having to deal with their antics. They block you right away and are confounded by the experience.

I almost thought you were talking about dnd because of DM but then I remembered "oh it's the other kind". Btw sorry that you went through it, like pretty much all women that posted here. I genuinely feel guilty because of that for being a man because I share the same chromosome type with those criminals. I don't know how to feel about it

 

[controversial666]

Weirdo "doctor" send a bunch of us on the same baby bump sub asking for photos of our babies feet...saaar.

Had some bad interactions with trannies arguing with me that women are totally into some weird pervert thing.

When I was younger I enjoyed pretending to be a man pretending to be a girl to get free shit on things like WoW or crappy free MMOs. I usually didn't get the free shit because I was having way too much fun being weird and killing their boners.
*Munches on your cock like a cob of corn. Mmmm crunchy*

Did you report him to the police? That's like even more fucked up than pedophilia

 

[Lady Bizness]

Did you report him to the police? That's like even more fucked up than pedophilia

Hindsight is 20/20. Just blocked the guy and warned the other women who hadn't been messaged yet. This was around the same time I got banned from r/feminism for some incredibly milquetoast thing so I was already on my way out of of Reddit and expecting their moderation team to be supportive of any problem I may have.

 

[Zirnwyb]

For the most part people online assume I'm a guy. I keep it that way unless I like the people/community I'm interacting with. The only time I'm ever outed as a lady, without me mentioning it, is if I have to join a voice chat for the MMO I play for calls in raids and such. I've been met with "Whoa I didn't know you were a chick, Zirn." and it amuses me greatly.

I will say, though, that I did have like two bad experiences online because of me being a woman. The first one was thanks to this hyper-religious guy acting like he owned me because I spoke to him. He'd call me up for voice chats every single damn day and would keep me in them for hours. If I spoke to other guys he'd throw a fit and say a whole bunch of nasty shit about them. He'd also throw a fit when I swore because he said it wasn't very ladylike. The straw that broke the camels back was him calling me SIX FUCKING TIMES in a row while I was sleeping. I told him to fuck off and die and never spoke to him again.

Second one was a guy I thought was my friend because he liked me in a strictly platonic way. Turns out he did not and desired a relationship with me. He sperged out really hard when he found out I had a boyfriend and basically harassed me every single day because he was trying to make me quit the MMO we both played. Guild lead did fuck about shit when I told him about it. I ended up just ignoring the guy and he eventually quit the game himself.

 

[Super Mario Brothers]

People assume I'm a man 90% of the time unless I'm in a female dominated space. Most of it was kind boring. A few years ago I drew my own pfps, and these were all girls and so people assumed I was a tranny. (Esp in right wing servers.) Even got threatened over it, weirdly enough. Some just assumed I was a guy though.

Anyway this all pales in comparision to someone who talked to me and said I had a "slave morality". Basically we conversed and introduced me to Nietsche, and tried to help me in this really weird way? Sort of gassed me up on becoming a noble. Also said I should return to Russia (although I guess I technically have more anglo blood, but I didn't tell him that) but like, in a positive way. He was an asian fascist who believed in this weird pan-asianism racial unity for Asia, hated that he was adopted and taken to live in a western country and wanted to go back there. I told him it was unrealistic but he ignored me. Anyway he ended up blocking me when I said I felt indifferent about miscegeneration.

He never knew I was a woman. Sometimes I feel like the player character in a video game where other characters will just tell me their life stories/personalities/etc.