Are you lost needing femoid advice post here - For the poor bastard's who dare or are just curious

[The Stranger]

(I once got a shitty perfume myself, he said it's very feminine, floral and tender and he thinks it will fit me. I was wearing men's shorts, pyramid belt and absolutely nothing floral, use no perfume, and, I gotta admit that, I swear a lot. Was he fuckin' blind and deaf, and lacking sense of smell too...?

He gifted you a perfume that would be fitting for the type of woman he wanted you to be.

Edit to clarify this isn't to defend him since I assume some may assume as such.

 

[2mm and 99 others]

He gifted you a perfume that would be fitting for the type of woman he wanted you to be.

Edit to clarify this isn't to defend him since I assume some may assume as such.

Yes, precisely. Men of this kind actually don't want to know their crush better.

 

[Nameless One]

A friendlier thing to buy a lady friend would be something like handsoap since a woman has her own specific hygeine.

 

[fist_of_khonshu]

The choice of words throughout this and following posts shows you already knew. Were it just an another fairly harmless dense idiot, who thinks he's gonna win you with some random shitty perfume (because women just LOVE perfumes, allegedly), you wouldn't use words like pressuring, predatory, danger, blocking, and all that about him visiting your parents' house.

What's up with moids gifting shitty perfumes anyway? Do they really think women gonna spray themselves with any random bottle they throw on them and be happy?
(I once got a shitty perfume myself, he said it's very feminine, floral and tender and he thinks it will fit me. I was wearing men's shorts, pyramid belt and absolutely nothing floral, use no perfume, and, I gotta admit that, I swear a lot. Was he fuckin' blind and deaf, and lacking sense of smell too...? (Just a rhetoric question)

My choice of words was deliberate, that I don't deny. It's mainly a mental battle between what I think im percieving and what the people we both associate with want me to believe about the situation. Most people in my real life who know us say I'm overreacting to the gesture and taking what he says out of context. I hope I made that clear in my last few replies.

 

[A Cat in a Minefield]

@fist_of_khonshu I am very sorry for your loss . Him trying to get into your pants, knowing your situation and what you have gone through is pretty fucking vile. Gifting you a perfume is the cherry on top.

I think, that in many cases a guy professing his love to you and you refusing will not put you in any danger. An uncomfortable situation, sure, but nothing further. BUT your situation and especially what and how he is writing shows me that your instinct was 100% correct.

"I am such a nice guy, the only thing I need from a relationship is making the other person smile "
This is about as manipulative as it gets.

The second message is exactly the same. It's literally "I am the nice guy, why don't you pick me." He sounds like a fucking creep. He has probably been waiting for quite some time to make the move on you. If it were just a spur of the moment thing, he wouldn't have gone through the motions of buying you the perfume, typing out a message (which, I promise you he spent quite some time on), etc.

I'd stop all contact with him. If he writes you, tell him, that you don't want to keep contact with him and that you'd appreciate him respecting that. Be direct, not like him. I have been in a somewhat similar situation with a homosexual. Sugarcoating it will not work. No compromise. And like @isalaide said, escalate immediately should he not respect your boundaries. And inform your family, even if they like him. Explain the situation and show them the texts if need be. If they don't listen, that's on them and not you "interpreting" something! Like @isalaide said, parents sense what's going on.

And good on you for going to therapy. Definitely discuss this with your therapist!

Edit:

My choice of words was deliberate, that I don't deny. It's mainly a mental battle between what I think im percieving and what the people we both associate with want me to believe about the situation. Most people in my real life who know us say I'm overreacting to the gesture and taking what he says out of context. I hope I made that clear in my last few replies.

And even if you were overreacting, so what (obv. you aren't)? Better save then sorry. And if people can't see that, fuck them.

 

[ThePozzedOutCritic]

What's up with moids gifting shitty perfumes anyway? Do they really think women gonna spray themselves with any random bottle they throw on them and be happy?
(I once got a shitty perfume myself, he said it's very feminine, floral and tender and he thinks it will fit me. I was wearing men's shorts, pyramid belt and absolutely nothing floral, use no perfume, and, I gotta admit that, I swear a lot. Was he fuckin' blind and deaf, and lacking sense of smell too...? (Just a rhetoric question)

It's like the default gift everyone tells you to give to women so guys who don't really know you or wanna think about what to get you always default to that. That or chocolate or flowers. At least that's what I've been told growing up idk might be wrong.

 

[Hubelublub]

Send the fucking perfume back.

No.

Keep that shit. It's yours, why should he get it back to give to the next woman he annoys?

You are never ever ever obligated to have sex with a man. Never ever.

Even if you keep the perfume.

 

[The Chosen One]

Women, I need fashion advice.
Asking for a friend who needs help in his love quest

Ponder the pictures below and tell me if this man looks like a complete retard that should go to a barber, or if this is fine
If the former, please provide suggestions

Spoiler: 2 hairstyles that are easy to maintain, but might not be fashionable enough

 

[crazedaze]

Women, I need fashion advice.
Asking for a friend who needs help in his love quest

Ponder the pictures below and tell me if this man looks like a complete retard that should go to a barber, or if this is fine
If the former, please provide suggestions

Spoiler: 2 hairstyles that are easy to maintain, but might not be fashionable enough

Wyświetl załącznik 7145476

I think it does need some shape

 

[Thé au lait]

What are some good candle brands. I'm looking to get some nice soy vanilla candles but want a strong scent. I'm also looking at getting some nice dark chocolate and would appreciate recommendations

Paging @candlejack

Women, I need fashion advice.
Asking for a friend who needs help in his love quest

Ponder the pictures below and tell me if this man looks like a complete retard that should go to a barber, or if this is fine
If the former, please provide suggestions

Spoiler: 2 hairstyles that are easy to maintain, but might not be fashionable enough

Wyświetl załącznik 7145476

The head hair needs to be taken care of, the facial hair is a fucking travesty and needs to be shaved

 

[Red flag]

Women, I need fashion advice.
Asking for a friend who needs help in his love quest

Ponder the pictures below and tell me if this man looks like a complete retard that should go to a barber, or if this is fine
If the former, please provide suggestions

Spoiler: 2 hairstyles that are easy to maintain, but might not be fashionable enough

Wyświetl załącznik 7145476

Bottom left implies he's not opposed to styling. Good hairline, so he can definitely pull it off if he gets a shaping trim and puts effort into maintenance. But he has to couple it with good fashion sense.

Long haired dudes are often overall slovenly ie the length is because they can't be arsed to put effort into their appearance, so if he's that type, just go to a barber.

 

[Nameless One]

Women, I need fashion advice.
Asking for a friend who needs help in his love quest

Ponder the pictures below and tell me if this man looks like a complete retard that should go to a barber, or if this is fine
If the former, please provide suggestions

Spoiler: 2 hairstyles that are easy to maintain, but might not be fashionable enough

Wyświetl załącznik 7145476

(Bottom left) Okay Geralt Of Rivia, just dye your hair white.

 

[Hubelublub]

The head hair needs to be taken care of, the facial hair is a fucking travesty and needs to be shaved

I cannot emphasise enough how accurate this advice is.

Asking for a friend who needs help in his love quest

Men are primarily attracted by looks, women much less so.

Since you've asked nothing about improving his personality, and only basic questions about his appearance, I'm going to assume he's a homo looking to attract a man.

Which leaves me confused why you're asking women. Why not ask the homosexuals in the WHT?

 

[candlejack]

What are some good candle brands. I'm looking to get some nice soy vanilla candles but want a strong scent. I'm also looking at getting some nice dark chocolate and would appreciate recommendations

Goose Creek Candles has good candles and they're always having huge sales. They have seasonal and random brand crossover candles. They burn clean and last a good while. They have "man" scents for when you can't enjoy normal candles without feeling like a homo. They have what you need.

 

[msd]

I once again come asking for advice, true genuine stuff. About my hair, again.

My ponytail keeps coming loose, my length reaches to the middle of my back, maybe lower, I haven't checked lately. But when I'm working the industrial fans keep blowing loose strands into my.face, and it's and it's to constsntly sweep my hair back or re do my ponytail.

Any advice Female kiwis?
If it helps a bit, I have native American in me, so my hair is naturally straight, soft and silky if that effects my ponytail

 

[A Cat in a Minefield]

I once again come asking for advice, true genuine stuff. About my hair, again.

My ponytail keeps coming loose, my length reaches to the middle of my back, maybe lower, I haven't checked lately. But when I'm working the industrial fans keep blowing loose strands into my.face, and it's and it's to constsntly sweep my hair back or re do my ponytail.

Any advice Female kiwis?
If it helps a bit, I have native American in me, so my hair is naturally straight, soft and silky if that effects my ponytail

Hold them down with hairspray. I had long curly hair and that's the only thing that helped. It helps, but if you work with fans there is only so much you can do.

Braiding them might help, not sure though.

You could also use hairclips. I think there are some that are very discreet.

 

[YautjaWeeb]

The more I transition into a full blown oldfag the harder the refractory period clarity hits and lasts.

I swear women can sense this and will prod more and more during this time.

How do I hide this better? Recycling? Just fake the O and live in the "semen retention" space that the gymbros swear by? Would you find it odd?

 

[Nameless One]

Stop having sex when you're old. You'll break a hip.

 

[crazedaze]

I'm curious wtf "refractory period clarity" is. Does it mean your life is meaningless during this time you're unable to orgasm again? And are they prodding because you're selfish and failed to get them off? Inquiring minds would like to know.

 

[A Cat in a Minefield]

Stop having sex when you're old. You'll break a hip.

Didn't Chris read a book on how to be "romantic" with an elderly person?