You see, I have no problem with men partaking in traditionally feminine hobbies. I think it's great to be honest. Be it cooking (though I'd say a lot more men know how to and like it now), sewing/knitting/crocheting, fashion/makeup, whatever. And with so many people who now live alone, it's actually a good idea to learn how to do some things that are usually associated as women's work. And it's just the same for women to learn things that are deemed men's work, because we don't always have a male relative/friend/neighbor available to do it for us, as men don't always have a female relative/friend/neighbor to help them either.
Now, when it's a troon partaking. I mean, I'm not going to begrudge anyone for taking interest, however, I will question his true intentions, especially if it's an obvious AGP. I will probably question why he's there for truly enjoying the hobby. Is he just there to validate his fetish and further along his demeaning ideas of what women should be and intimidate women? Even with an HSTS, I'll also wonder if he's there for the same reason as the AGP, though not because their view is necessarily demeaning, but because they have a very narrow view of gender roles, so "women do this, so therefore if I do it, I am also a woman." Either way, unless they're extremely personable and don't make a huge deal of being a tranny (and pass reasonably well to where I could forget they're a man briefly) and make it obvious they're there solely for the hobby, I'm going to react to them differently than men.
Maybe it's because I've had some traumatic experiences (not due to trannies), but I do have a fear/disgust/no trust reaction to seeing what's an obvious man LARPing as a woman. Mainly because I know a lot of them are fetishists, but also, as we've all seen, it's not too hard for a male predator to claim they're a troon to access female spaces. And I'm sorry, because of what I've had to go through, I cannot lie to myself and say that the obvious man in front of me is a woman, and I should feel safe just because they say so. Some troons might fool me briefly, but once I realize it's a man, I will always view them as men. It's just a defense mechanism I have. I get therapy to try to help with my issues, but I can't get a cure for how I'm highly attuned to male features, nor the fact I feel highly unsafe with a man in women's spaces, especially because they can get there by stating "I'm a woman".
To end this sperg, there are some trannies that I would be polite enough to call female pronouns, if 1) they're HSTSs and pass reasonably well and 2) They realize they are not the same as real women, they will not actually become female, and know to be in women's spaces is a gift, and not a courtesy and 3) They are extremely personable and I genuinely like them. But if they pressed me on whether I saw them as an actual woman, I would tell them no. I view them as trans women, but not actual women. But there are only a handful of trannies I would extend this courtesy to, and none of them are ones I know in real life.
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