Yeah, I understand what you're all trying to explain. Again, I'm sorry my words were maybe a bit too strong and I may have sounded rude. Please read my entire message so I don't have to quote myself on that... But yeah, basically I had a feeling of déjà vu with this lighter, it reminded me of the stamps collections and how Bob kinda wanted Chris to cherish his stuff even if he said he could "recycle" it (I think this is how he mentioned it in his letter) if he didn't had any utility for them.
Please understand that I was not saying "Keep everything Chris!", but the fact that the lighter was a gift given to his father, I supposed that it must have had some sentimental values to Bob. But again, I don't know, I'm not Bob, nor Chris nor Barb. I'm just supposing. It would have been a nice object to keep as a memory... (Plus a lighter is always useful.)
But let me explain a bit my point of view so you can maybe understand how I'm processing the situation:
A gift, to me, is before all things a memory, it's not just an object you buy or something you give. It's a memory from the person that offers it to you. It can take the form of anything, but it is most of the time an object. Most people see money behind a gift, that's why some people won't hesitate to sell it. But to me selling it would mean selling the memories, giving it away to a person you don't even know... If I had such an object, I would probably keep it and wait until I have a truthworthy person in my life that could like it, then give it to them.
Again, I'm repeating myself, but I'm not in any way trying to impose my point of view on anyone. I was just expressing how I felt about the thing. Like, you can call someone names while not especially think it, and then apologize (wich I did earlier) because you realised that it was a mistake. To me Chris is someone that have a hard time learning basic stuff in life because of his autism, I don't know if he's a bad person in the bottom of his heart, but sometimes he makes shitty decisions. I'm not saying that he's doing it in a wicked way just to be a dick. But sometimes I have the feeling that he doesn't put himself in the shoes of others. Which is a big no no to me.
It just made me feel sad to see Bob's memories being sold to total strangers... I may have overreacted though, sorry for that, I'm an impulsive person.
PS: I'm truly sorry if my english is wonky, I'm a frenchie still learning the language. I may not make much sense, and my choices of words are limited because I'm not bilingual... But I tried my best to explain in a clear way!
