I grew up with this being pushed around my church hard. It's been many years and I'm at a different church of a different denomination now but I've seen a few women mention this and it's always in a context where it's not appropriate for me to express my frothing rage and I have to bite my tongue.
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I will admit in full transparency that I have not read this and I've been telling the truth when I've said I haven't been married. Let's ignore the love vs respect thing for just a moment. What he wants is a "need." What she wants is a "desire." What the husband wants is a need, what the woman wants is a bonus. She is less important than him.
Let's go further.
What is the thing of a lower value/importance? Love. Respect is more important in a marriage than love. You know who values respect more than love? Your boss. A king. A military general. An alligator tamer. This is not the sort of relationship you should have with your husband and it's not the model for a biblical marriage.
An oft-quoted passage by "traditional" misogynists is Ephesians 5:22 - "Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord." What they ignore is that the chapter as a whole teaches that both husband and wives should submit to each other and put their egos aside for each other. This isn't the thread to religisperg so I will stop here but I'm just heated that this sentiment became so prevalent in the church and still persists to this day (tbf the women I see supporting this view are 40+).