For my post op meta/phallo guys: Is hooking up stealth possible?
Been wanting to experiment for awhile now but it's such a heavy thing for me. I think it's a combination of my resentment towards cis guys for being born cis and internalized homophobia.
Regardless if I'm out to the other person or not, sex has always been such an extremely vulnerable, heavy thing for me since I had never felt comfortable in my body, and it was massive it share it with someone else; let alone with a cis guy I already feel resentment towards.
I've decided for my own sake and comfortability that I will not be out on the apps. And I would not be planning to disclose my trans ness to other guys. For many reasons, but the primary reason being that I'm just looking to sexually explore, not for anything romantic/relationship wise.
But it's probably going to be another year until my phalloplasty journey is completely finished- I'm talking ED and implants. I do think my penis is passable right now, I have had my glansplasty done so the phallus itself is pretty much done, only needing a little more debulking. I slept with a girl recently who barely batted an eye at my penis when she saw it (she was more curious about my giant leg scar, lol).
My question is- do you guys think I would be able to have a casual encounter off of Grindr or sniffies with where I'm at right now? Just thinking I'd probably say I had dick surgery since I still don't have an ED, balls, or would be able to externally cum. Or is this too much of a long shot and I should just wait until I'm fully finished?