Women who quit dating and are single , what are your reasons?

[equinsu_ocha]

I have made bad choices in the past with partners. I'm waiting for the one. Or whatever.

 

[Yaniv’s Hairy Balls]

I'll be the judge of that. @Justa Grata Honoria dinner at 4210 Wolfetown Rd Springfield, IL 62629. Bring all your cowardly friends with you, I'll go to prison but you'll go to the morgue.

Why is it that this was one of the most influential moments of my life? Someone on kiwi fucking farms threatening me by telling me to come to an Appalachian camp site.

Anyways, bobs and vagen op. Also I’m married so that’s why I dont date. In the 15 or so years since I got w my spouse the hedonism has gone thru the roof and I’d rather die than date a polyamorous gender queer limp wristed retard and that’s like 70% of the market afaict.

 

[flaxseed]

While I've had bad experiences with exes of both genders, I remain single not because of that or the rampant insanity online/offline, but because I realized a few years ago (after yet another failed dating attempt) that I genuinely enjoy being alone.

Failed dating attempts a-plenty, and while there were a couple that were offputting which made me nope out, the VAST majority were because I would get bored. The last couple people I tried to date were great people, I just seem incapable of retaining interest. Something wired wrong in my brainmeats I guess.

I have no resentments about it, and I don't get lonely. I have my own place in a decent area, a decent job, my own routine. I see no reason to add in a partner simply because society sees it as normal when I'm happy as-is.

No cats though, I have a doge

 

[Turquoise]

I just can't seem to find a toned 6'4 guy who owns a house and is actually willing to step up and be a dad to my beautiful daughter.

 

[Space Oddity]

Dating when I was younger was easier. Now that I'm 31 and working full-time, I find it difficult. I work 2 jobs and lots of hours. So when I have time off I like to spend it alone, resting, with friends or with my family. Most guys I've dated were nice, but it usually doesn't work out due to me (or both) having so little time. I don't feel lonely, but I do feel sad that I probably won't have my own made family anytime soon, maybe never. I know that it makes my parents' sad as well, they would like to have grandkids. Maybe it can still happen, you never know. But if it doesn't, that's okay too.

 

[The Stranger]

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Thanks, this is the perfect song to play while I shadowbox outside the battered women's shelter!

 

[zeros_karma]

tldr brcause I wanted a relationship so badly I ruined my life

made the mistake of getting involved with a poly whale in middle school just to be with the guy she/they was seeing. Any mention of her growing size, I was shot down as fat phobic as if i was the problem not wanting to suffocate with her being twice my weight. She started changing pronouns and playing victim if you didn't know the flavor of the day. claiming her parents were abusive for making her do chores and shit loke that. I started calling my own parents abusive seeing how much attention shed get from everyone. lying, accusing people of bigotry or abuse to get my way. i fucked my life up badly from having amazing grades and a full college fund to having nothing. barely graduated high school, no job, no college. My parents rescinded the money they saved for me because of everything i did. i plan to stay single until things get back on track.

 

[Blue Flying Leaf]

My sister, who never even knew our father, ended up in relationships with the same kinds of guys and royally fucked herself. After seeing that I was afraid I'd end up the same way. I know that sounds ridiculous. But sometimes you never know who people really are.

Really sad story to hear, but in the end, it's your life, you are the one living and leading it and it doesn't have to end like that.

 

[Clutter]

The long and short of it is I'm scared of dating. I'm paranoid I'll miss red flags and end up as a true crime story for some chick to ramble off while smearing on make-up for a youtube video. I've also had very poor luck in general including a guy I dated for years who admitted he didn't love me at the end of our relationship and another one who threatened to an hero if I left him. The single life seems like the safer option.

 

[DickMain]

i plan to stay single until things get back on track.

I think a lot of us get into dumb situations when we're young, and think we know a lot better than people with more experience than us at the time. Sometimes you need a fuckup like that to see that you need to get your life together. I think the fact you determined that is a good sign, and I'm sure if you really work on it your parents will come back around. If the lolcows here are anything to go by with how much they push their families at times then I'm sure your parents still have plenty of love left for you. Just keep showing that you're working to get your shit together and I'm sure it'll work out. I don't know your situation exactly, but it also goes a long way to just call and explain that you know you fucked up, and you're going to work to get better. Getting your shit together before seeking a serious relationship is also a smart move, and it's most likely not over for you.

The long and short of it is I'm scared of dating. I'm paranoid I'll miss red flags and end up as a true crime story for some chick to ramble off while smearing on make-up for a youtube video. I've also had very poor luck in general including a guy I dated for years who admitted he didn't love me at the end of our relationship and another one who threatened to an hero if I left him. The single life seems like the safer option.

How did you happen to meet these guys? It might be like you're saying where you are missing the signs. The first situation sounds like maybe it just wasn't clear what both of your goals were going into it (not that I can say for sure), and this second one sounds like he was fake from the beginning, which isn't your fault. I'm not sure how quickly these relationships started, but if you're worried you can't see through these things maybe introduce your next date to your friends, and meet theirs as well. You can judge somebody by the company they keep, and your friends might notice things you don't.

 

[Clutter]

How did you happen to meet these guys? It might be like you're saying where you are missing the signs. The first situation sounds like maybe it just wasn't clear what both of your goals were going into it (not that I can say for sure), and this second one sounds like he was fake from the beginning, which isn't your fault. I'm not sure how quickly these relationships started, but if you're worried you can't see through these things maybe introduce your next date to your friends, and meet theirs as well. You can judge somebody by the company they keep, and your friends might notice things you don't.

Bold of you to assume I have friends. Without power leveling too much, I met both of them through people I knew and I'm trying to work on my problems with mixed results.

 

[Justa Grata Honoria]

It might be like you're saying where you are missing the signs

Many western men are able to keep their shitfuckery under wraps until the person they are dating is hooked and slowly turn up the abuse/ gaslighting and general drama like boiling frog.

By the time a woman realizes she got a raw deal she might be a decade in a marriage with two kids.

 

[DickMain]

Bold of you to assume I have friends. Without power leveling too much, I met both of them through people I knew and I'm trying to work on my problems with mixed results.

Well hey as long as you're working on it things overall can only get better for you. Even if it doesn't lead to a relationship now, raising the floor on what you can offer is going to make anything down the line better. If you can find the time of day for it, you might try checking out programs offered by your community college for stuff like culinary arts, pottery, things like that. Cheap, short-term, good way to meet people and pick up some fun skills. Usually courses like that only meet a couple times a week so it's not a big commitment.

 

[Kitty kitty cat]

i fucked my life up badly from having amazing grades and a full college fund to having nothing. barely graduated high school, no job, no college. My parents rescinded the money they saved for me because of everything i did.

Look Im an old fag and this is unsolicited advice, so ignore or call me a faggot but talking to the people you have wronged, show true remorse and regret and apologize. Not the lame ass "Im sorry if I hurt your feeling hurrr durrr" but a true "I Fucked up" and leave it at that. You cant expect forgiveness but you can ask and you can show them, that youre working on yourself.
You might already have done that but there is strength in atonement and I garantee you be better off because of it.

 

[Soft Boi]

I only get hit on by uglies, Nigs, Arabs, and retards, so that makes me quite sad.
I'm also afraid of getting drugged, raped and murdered.
I'm way to eager to please and that put me in bad situations in the past and I only recenty realized how fucked up it was so I'm afraid I can't rely on my good judgement to see red flags before it's too late.

 

[Benzo Samurai]

I'm way to eager to please and that put me in bad situations in the past and I only recenty realized how fucked up it was so I'm afraid I can't rely on my good judgement to see red flags before it's too late.

practice being an asshole. not actually being an asshole but not just being particularily nice. feels of uncertainty will enter the body. endure them. this way you level up.

 

[Nikon_Camera]

It's tough to find a responsible partner who's not going to be a burden on you.
Literally everyone are either infantile, entitled, or have history of schizophrenia in their family.

 

[The Great Milenko]

I am not a woman, but I have a good FWB that shares the same view. Dating, especially online dating, is completely exhausting.
No one cares or knows how to engage in conversation. Then you add on top the people who have no business "looking for a relationship" since they are Day 0 out of their previous one.
Another friend's fiancé stated, "People want the fun of a relationship, but not the responsibility of one."

 

[Hubelublub]

This thread's topic: women, who are single
This thread's posters: women who aren't single, and moids.

Also: moids giving unsolicited advice, for some reason.

 

[Dieter Hell]

These gender specific threads are always a hoot.