This is a question for all the women lurking here. Every girl I've ever had a conversation with concerning the weird shit they've put up has something that was indirectly sketchy but normally the kind of sketchy that's like, only there if you read into it. The kind of sketchy that a dude for example, wouldn't recognize. You know, I'm walking my dog at night and my dog growls at someone who steps out of an alleyway behind me, I'm embarrassed. My sisters dog growls, she's on edge because clearly her dog picked up on something she didn't right? She's got a lot more to worry about than I do in this regard.
But reading this, it comes off just weird and fetishy. Do y'all think this is fucking weird because this person seems to think all the dudes around him are like, hair trigger sex pests and is clearly fantasizing about being molested, or is it the fact that he thinks he passes well enough to set off the sex pest flag to begin with? If you didn't know this person was trans, would you just think they were fucking crazy?
When I said it set off alarm bells it was because it has a lot of little pieces of bullshit that cling together to one big pile.
> "I'm a trans woman who is fortunate enough to pass fairly easily"
unlikely, but
possible if everything else checks out
>"In just a few short weeks, I have already been approached or had advances made on me by every single male coworker I have"
In just a few weeks? Like in less 20 days? In an office setting?
>"I've had my ass 'accidentally' touched"
TIMs are lucky to pass. If you've managed to fool men into thinking you're so hot that they instantly start groping your ass without fear of professional repercussions something must be going on. By this point I knew I was going to look the selfie up and, where lo and behold I found the weird angled photo where you can see he looks like a rectangle behind the very carefully chosen and edited pose he was doing.
>"The few men that haven't treated me like a toy"
contradicts "every single male coworker." Not like I needed more red flags but this really cemented the sense that no part of this story was true.
Even if a supermodel showed up to work in a male-dominated office, while I have no doubt some man would get inappropriate, the odds of the entire office doing it in a month are not high. Dudes are married. Or old. Or gay. I have a nose for lies but this one wasn't even challenging, really.
To get back to your point - I'm sure you've heard TRAs say things like "if someone tells you who they are believe them" or "why does it matter, why would you question someone's identity"? I've watched guys take on this blank, cow-eye look when they're being spun a tale because that's more or less what they're thinking inside, "why would I question it?"
"This guy's child is in the hospital and his car broke down and he needs $20 for a taxi? And it's 4 AM and we're at a rest stop? ...well my wallet is empty but he seems kind of upset so maybe at the end he'll ask for directions or something I can actually offer?" That kind of look. It's a look that says "I'm not afraid of you, but only because I'm too stupid to realize what you are trying to get from me."
It's the wanting that's obvious to women, normally. We're trained to look for things like, him wanting to take us someplace secluded, or him breaking eyeshot of our drink, or him touching us without permission. Even when it's not sexual it can still be obvious when your attention is being appropriated for something you don't want to give it to - when a guy starts acting like a clown for attention, or when a political demonstration interrupts your recreation time.
But TIMs will take almost anything - accurate pronouns, physical contact, female acknowledgement, inclusion, fuck even positive-to-neutral eye contact is fodder for the spank bank. Most women will gladly offer these things, thinking "The tard wants to take a selfie with me? Ok! What harm could it do if we pose with our arms around each other?" If he's bold enough to ask we're not trained to recognize a threat that masturbates to basic politeness and acknowledgement. It took a lot of reading this thread and other sources to understand that even
polite dismissal of a TIM is not enough of a stonewall if I don't want to be masturbated to. It has to be
nothing. We're not evolved to pick up on that.
